Post # 1
Normally I get really excited about Christmas this year. Now it’s kind of something I’m dreading. Sometimes I’d give anything to be a kid again because I was always so excited for Christmas and Santa to come. No worries, carefree childhood. *sigh* but this year is going to be different that’s for sure. For one, my grandpas bladder cancer is back so he’s been back and forth at home and the hospital every month and my mom has been taking care of his appointments and all so she’s stressed out like crazy which means adding anything else to her plate would make her blow I think. She loves thanksgiving but every year she’s like a Grinch at Christmas. She waits till the last minute to get gifts as well and then gets stressed because of it. My aunt has breast cancer and has been going through treatments. My uncle is out of work due to an injury. I’m losing my job soon, my SO is still trying to get a job whilst living at his grandparents. He says he’s proposing but won’t give me a timeline when because either 1.He doesn’t have a ring or 2. He’s waiting till he gets a job so he can reassure my parents of his stability before asking for their blessing. I haven’t even begun Christmas shopping. Ahh…I just wish I had a fairy godmother to just bippity boppity boo it all. Maybe it’ll get better. I hope and pray it does.
Post # 3
So sorry to hear all of that. 🙁 The holidays are so hard because it can amplify things that aren’t good and festive in our lives!
Maybe make an effort to spend some quality time with your SO just doing simple things and being thankful for one another and the time you have now with your loved ones. Take a walk to look at Christmas lights, watch a funny holiday movie with hot cocoa, or bake Christmas cookies to bring to your Grandpa, mom, aunt and uncle. Sometimes spreading the cheer is enough to bring a festive feeling to yourself too! I’ll send good thoughts your way.
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Post # 5
Oh honey! I am so sorry to hear all of that. I’ve dealt with some illnesses and death in my family recently, and I know how hard the holidays can be in the midst of all of that. One year in particular, my uncle had just died and the funeral was on December 26 and it was just one year when I needed the holidays to be over with. And this is coming from someone who goes nuts over Christmas.
My point is that it’s okay if this year isn’t going to be 100% holly jolly. Christmas will be back next year, and you can celebrate it extra (hopefully things in life with have settled down a bit by then).
In the meantime, try not to focus so much on what you feel like you *should* be doing *just* because it’s the holidays, and focus on what will make you and your family happy. Can you and your mom go Christmas shopping together, partially to get her mind off your grandpa and partially so you guys can feel less stressed about buying gifts? Or maybe your family can agree that in light of everything that’s going on, maybe you’ll buy fewer gifts or do something as a family this year to allieviate some of the pressure.
What can you and your SO do to support each other emotionally while you’re looking for jobs? Can you set aside some time to look/apply together (side by side on different computers or something)? That process is SO stressful. It might help to have a buddy, and it will certainly help you guys out as a couple to both feel better/more stable in your jobs.
And of course, you don’t have to forget about the holidays entirely. Is there something small you can do to feel a little more festive? A Starbucks holiday drink? Going to a tree lighting? Listening to Christmas music? Decorating your place?
The holidays are always portrayed as these perfectly shiny and happy times, but life isn’t always perfect and shiny. I would just try to make the best of things and focus on what’s best for you and your family right now, without worrying too much about the added holiday pressure. Hugs and good luck!