Not-as-girly brides, what kind of dress did you end up wearing?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House


I would say try on different styles that you think (or don’t think) you might like. I thought I knew what I wanted – slim fit, simple, sleeves – and while those looked good, I ended up with a corseted, still slim fit, beaded lace, strapless gown. I was blown away by it. So much so I went over budget by about $1200. 

Things I thought wouldn’t work didn’t, but I wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t tried!

Post # 5
44 posts
  • Wedding: February 2014

That girl you described, that’s me too!! I totally get you, I had the same concerns as you did; but as soon as I tried on my dress, I fell in love! 🙂 It’s not very girly, but it makes me feel wonderful! Short train, strapless, A-line (I think), ivory and I’ll probably end up wearing a simple short veil. Oh, and some flats!! My suggestion is picking out a dress that makes you feel great, confident and that reflects who you are, you’ll find it, I’m sure! 🙂

Here’s a pic of my dress!


Sorry, I don’t know how to resize it!! 🙁

Post # 7
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Tea length dresses are not as “fussy” as the floor length gowns. These ones are quite simple yet still elegant.


Post # 8
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

@nyan-nyan:  I’m also not a girly-girl. I grew up on a farm, and now, any time I’m not at work you can almost guarantee I’ll be wearing sneakers and sweats or workout gear (I train martial arts about 18-20 hours per week, so if I’m not at the gym, chances are I’m on my way there or I just got home). I thought I wanted a fancy dress with lots of beading and a train and a fancy back, so I bought that dress (truth be told I bought 2 of them), then we had some venue issues and I realised I don’t want to be wearing a big stupid dress and heels in a garden. I want to be comfortable, and so I sold my dress and ordered a simple lace A-Line dress with cap sleeves and no train. Stay true to what you want, not what you think other people expect!

Post # 9
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m not super girly girl. I really like wearing dresses and stuff but anything with lots going on (frills, ruffles etc.) doesn’t feel like me and I also found that when I put on dresses with lots of lace it didn’t look right either. I ended up going with the dress below that felt really feminine but not girly.

Post # 10
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

“Not-as-girly” defintiely describes me. I’m girlier than I was as a teenager but I still don’t really wear skirts or dresses. this is what I’ve ended up with. I love it.

Post # 11
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m definitely a jeans and t-shirt (more like a mens cut than a fitted women’s cut) sort of girl. I don’t wear makeup and I love chapstick.

Here’s my (IMO, slightly girly) dress:




Post # 12
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I let my husband pick out my dress.  This is what he chose

This is what I ended up doing to my dress at my reception

Post # 13
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@nyan-nyan:  As another tee shirt/jeans every day woman, the only advice I can give you is to pick a dress that is comfortable. If you are comfortable in your dress, it will show, and you will worry less about it, and focus more on the amazing feelings of the whole day. I just got married on Saturday, and I have never felt so damn fabulous in my whole life because I could sit, dance, and BREATHE in my dress.

I wear dresses so infrequently that it was included in my brother speech, haha!

I don’t have my wedding shots yet, but here is the first try-on of the dress.

Here’s my dad walking me down the aisle (hope you can see it).

Post # 14
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn

@nyan-nyan:  im not a girly girl AT ALL!!! will always pick jeans and a hoody over a skirt and blouse. i cant walk in heels and my make up drawer last got opened about 4 years ago 🙂

IMO i have ended up with a girly dress (not what i would have EVER thought i would have picked)


masses of fulle and a nice big train.

keep and open mind and try loads of different styles on – you might suprise yourself with what you fall in love with!

Post # 15
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I went very simple but we’re having a casual beach wedding.

I tried on lots of different dresses but I knew I wanted either a sheath or a mermaid style dress because I didn’t want the poofiness or weight of a ballgown.

Post # 16
3557 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wear jeans, a t-shirt, and a hoodie just about everyday. I asked my boss for a dress code and it boils down to pants, and things you don’t mind getting bleached or stained. I’m 23 and I just decided that I should probably start learning how to do make-up. So yeah I’m darn close to being a tom-boy. I haven’t been doing it conciously, but somehow my wedding choices are leading me to be a mini version of Kate Middleton.

Here’s my dress, it’s quite comfortable. I wanted something with some lace, as lace makes it feel bridal for me, but I didn’t want a lace dress. I’m getting married outside in a park so I plan to cut the train down to something like a sweep train.

I had originally planned to get flats as we’re getting married on grass, but it is almost impossible to find dress flats that aren’t ballet shoes. Ballet shoes simply do not work with the shape of my feet, so I ended up with wedges. I don’t wobble in them at all 🙂

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