(Closed) Not as much fun as I thought it would be…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You can pull off a wedding in 5 months. My SIL got engaged and was married within 3 months. You just have to realize what is most important and scale back on some of the unnecessary extras that will take too much time to do.

First of all, find out when your parents can travel. Then you have a few weekends to work with. Then find a church. Book it. Book a reception hall, if you can, that does its own catering. That’s a HUGE hassle saver! And find a photographer. Then a dress. Then bridesmaid dresses and tuxes. Worst case scenario, you get married later in the year and you have more time. There’s nothing wrong with pushing back to march or april 2010 to save some sanity =]

Those are you biggies. You might need to buy an ebay dress or off the rack, so start looking! 

Post # 4
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Our total engagement period will be right around 5 and a half months. I thought wedding planning would be hard work but fairly easy for me since I am super organized and I’m good at planning but I really had no idea what I was in for. One simple decision is actually made up of 10 different decisions for just that one thing! I’ve had a sudden medical issue come up and now I am frozen too. I just don’t even know how to keep up with everything anymore especially with my wedding being just 47 days away.

The important thing is to BREATHE. I remind myself of that one a lot. One of the most important things that I did is make a task list that another bee recommended. It’s an excel spreadsheet with what I need to do, dates I start doing that thing, the due date of each thing, and then I can start checking things off. I highlight things on that list that need to be done within the next 2 weeks and I focus on those things first. Even if you have 20 or 200 things on that list, it keeps you focused on the important things at that time. At the bottom of the sheet I have the total of things I need to do, the total of urgent things I need to do, and the total of things that are done. Being able to write "DONE!" next to a few things after a long weekend of errands is a huge motivator to just keep on plugging along.

The whole process has been a learning experience. It’s been fun, stressful, frustrating, and rewarding all at the same time. You’re not alone though and weddingbee reminds me that there are plently of other bees going through the same thing.

Post # 6
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792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hang in there Miss Rain! We had a 5.5 month engagement, so it can be done. I’ve found that wedding planning goes though cycles- things come together, then they fall apart. This cycle will continually repeat itself throughout the entire process. Lean on each other when you need strength and remember to cry when you need to. It’s also important to keep your sense of humor about the whole thing too… weird and wacky people come out of the woodwork and strange and annoying situations will arise- but laughter can be the best medicine!

Post # 8
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

CONGRATULATIONS! 0102, 2010 (awesome palindrome!)

having a date is so exciting.  Hope the rest of the details continue to work themselves out while you wait for that ring!

I had an 8 month engagement and feel like I could’ve done it 5-6 months.  The only difficulty is booking the vendors ahead of time and you are well on your way.

Post # 9
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I just read about a couple that was having a destination wedding in Mexico when the swine flu hit! She re-did her whole wedding planning and they ended up having it in San Francisco. The kicker? She did it in one week. She must be super girl. Hang in there! You wll find a way.

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