Post # 1
Since I’ve joined the wedding bee community I’ve been a little overwhelmed by the 2-4 carat huge engagement rings. I even felt myself (for a moment) suffering a bit of ring envy. I love my ring- my fiance’ picked it out himself. My only problem is finding a wedding band to match- I’ve tried on over 100 rings. As I’m sitting here typing, I let my gaze fall on this beautiful ring. It’s nowhere near as big as the monstrocities I’ve seen on this site but it’s full of love that will last forever.
Anyone else have a small ring that they love regardless?
Post # 3
@EmJayHyphenAy: I see absolutely nothing to be ashamed of in a small ring! My original ering’s centre stone is no more than .4ct, but as you beautifully put it, it’s full of love!
Only reason we’re upgrading is because I’m allergic to white gold, which is a shame because I love white gold!
It isn’t the size that’s important, it’s what it represents!
Post # 4
I think it is great to love your ring, regardless of size. We all love different things. But it is rude to call others rings, also “full of love that will last forever”, monstrocities.
Post # 5
@EmJayHyphenAy: Your ring is beautiful. I am glad you are proud of it.
I am not sure I’d called bigger rings “monstrocities” though.
Post # 6
I think its beautiful! Nothing to be ashamed of at all. And remember… just because someone says they have a 2+ carat ring it doesn’t mean they do. It is the internet, afterall.
My inlaws got engaged when they were 19. He had no money and got her a tiny little simple ring. Twenty-five years later he is a Vice President and they are extremely comfortable in regard to finances. But you know what? My MIL is still sporting her tiny little original ering. I just love that.
Post # 7
Agree with PPs that your ring is very pretty, but it’s not cool to refer to others’ rings as “monstrosities”
I’m glad you’re happy with your ring!
Post # 8
@esk716: That’s what I was thinking.
Of course you should proudly wear your ring, OP! There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
Post # 9
Before this turns into an argument, I don’t think she meant to offend by saying monstrocities, I think she meant it more as a derivative of monstrous and was refering to the size….let’s not all get upset.
Post # 10
@EmJayHyphenAy: Just so you know over 70% of these rings on wedding bee’s that are 2carats, 3 carats and over 3 carats are all Moissionate’s or however you spell it. I thought the same thing but if you dig a little deeper in the bee’s who post their huge ring pics profiles you will see most of them are imitiation diamonds 🙂
Post # 11
@Lbward6: +1. Thats how I interpreted it. Monstrous in regard to size, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
Post # 13
@Lbward6: monstrosity has a negative conotation by definition
“something, esp. a building, that is very large and is considered unsightly.“
I don’t think anyone has been mean to OP or gotten their panties in a bunch, people were just letting her know it wasn’t appropriate (while at the same time complimenting her ring).
Post # 14
@EmJayHyphenAy: It’s a very pretty ring and honestly, not *that* small. I’ve definitely seen smaller.
Also I second what @adoc86: said, i.e., people exaggerate and sometimes outright lie, sad to say. There’s no way of verifying diamond size or clarity through a vague picture and even if everyone were telling the truth, there still aren’t that many 2+ carat rings here. The norm is 1ct and that is still higher than the average e-ring size in reality, so there is a definite selection bias. If you really want to see BLING, check out Pricescope…5ct rings and 10ct tennis bracelets 😛
Oh and just btw, I know you’re new but be it on an internet forum or in real life, or in relations to small rings or large ones, calling something a ‘monstrosity’, especially something highly cherished by someone, is probably not the most tactful move.
Post # 15
@Lbward6: regardless of what you think she meant, either way it is still rude. There is nothing positive with either word. If someone posted you ring is hidiously small, you can sure as heck be sure they would get flamed. I have a 2-3ct diamond, and I was offended.
Post # 16
Well, I think that ring is lovely. But, I don’t think any ring is a “monstrocity”, unless it has a horrifying back story (like it’s made out of the human bones or something)