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my cousin asked my 1 sister, but not me or my other sister to be a bm. but the bride explicitly told me that she would never ask ANY of us because it was unfair to choose just 1 sister and not all 3. Funny thing is, she is only have 3 bm and 1 is co-worker who she has known for 6 months. also, my sister who was chosen has lived in France for the past 8 years and has not been inccomunicado with the bride (we are 26)... but I have been there taking day trips with her, dinners, and dress shopping. My sister and mother both feel my cousin is being "classless" and have said i have a much stronger relationship with the bride. my other sister, who was also not asked, is likewise hurt. The bride has yet to say anything to me or explain her decision. She asked my sister and left it up to my sister to convey the message. I don't understand. My sister who was also not invited to be a BM thinks its because the bride is overweight and is self-conscious and prefers the sister who is more like her in stature...I have no other theories. I know she is the bride and it is her day, but I honestly do not wish to attend her wedding if she does not appreciate me enough to choose a 6 month co-worker and foreign soil sister over me. 

I'm so sorry to hear that you are feeling this way.

I can't tell you what is running through your cousin's mind, I'm sure whatever it is is nothing personal. She clearly likes you if you're spending so much time together. Maybe she wanted your sister to be in the wedding because she won't be around for all of the planning/fun-wedding-related trips you'll get to be part of? Who knows.

In my experience, I had wanted a small bridal party but my husband had 6 REALLY good friends he wanted to ask. In the end, we compromised at 4 of his friends for groomsmen. And since I wanted my family involved, we asked my brother & his wife to be our readers and thier daughter to be the flower girl. It was insanely difficult to come to this decision. But every couple is different and they have to make the best decision that works for them; not necessarily what is expected.

However, since you're really that bothered by it, you should speak to your cousin calmly about it. And I truly hope that she wouldn't choose her bridal party solely on physical appearance, that's just terrible. If she really is that sort of a person, you needn't waste your time over it, it's her loss.

Sorry I don't have better advice. Good Luck.