- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
my cousin asked my 1 sister, but not me or my other sister to be a bm. but the bride explicitly told me that she would never ask ANY of us because it was unfair to choose just 1 sister and not all 3. Funny thing is, she is only have 3 bm and 1 is co-worker who she has known for 6 months. also, my sister who was chosen has lived in France for the past 8 years and has not been inccomunicado with the bride (we are 26)… but I have been there taking day trips with her, dinners, and dress shopping. My sister and mother both feel my cousin is being “classless” and have said i have a much stronger relationship with the bride. my other sister, who was also not asked, is likewise hurt. The bride has yet to say anything to me or explain her decision. She asked my sister and left it up to my sister to convey the message. I don’t understand. My sister who was also not invited to be a BM thinks its because the bride is overweight and is self-conscious and prefers the sister who is more like her in stature…I have no other theories. I know she is the bride and it is her day, but I honestly do not wish to attend her wedding if she does not appreciate me enough to choose a 6 month co-worker and foreign soil sister over me.