(Closed) not asked to be bridesmaid

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
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  • Wedding: October 1991

I’m so sorry to hear that you are feeling this way.

I can’t tell you what is running through your cousin’s mind, I’m sure whatever it is is nothing personal. She clearly likes you if you’re spending so much time together. Maybe she wanted your sister to be in the wedding because she won’t be around for all of the planning/fun-wedding-related trips you’ll get to be part of? Who knows.

In my experience, I had wanted a small bridal party but my husband had 6 REALLY good friends he wanted to ask. In the end, we compromised at 4 of his friends for groomsmen. And since I wanted my family involved, we asked my brother & his wife to be our readers and thier daughter to be the flower girl. It was insanely difficult to come to this decision. But every couple is different and they have to make the best decision that works for them; not necessarily what is expected.

However, since you’re really that bothered by it, you should speak to your cousin calmly about it. And I truly hope that she wouldn’t choose her bridal party solely on physical appearance, that’s just terrible. If she really is that sort of a person, you needn’t waste your time over it, it’s her loss.

Sorry I don’t have better advice. Good Luck.  

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