Post # 1
Name-changing for this one because I feel kind of pathetic. I loved wedding blogs when we were planning and hoped we might be featured on one. It would have been a nice way to thank our friendors. Four rejections later, I’m feeling kind of deflated.
I’m not posting to whinge about us not being blogged. I understand that they get a whole bunch of submissions.
But I did want to talk about how it feels. Because people talk freely about how it doesn’t really matter if your wedding isn’t blog-worthy because, hey, you got married and had a great day. So it doesn’t matter that you feel crushed, right?
And it’s fine when a friend gets featured on one of the blogs that turned you down, and it’s fine when another friend gets featured in a magazine, because it’s not a competition, and you had a great day, right?
I guess I just needed to say, SOMEWHERE, that I am a teensy bit jealous and I feel crushed. I realise it is stupid and I will get over it. But I can’t be the only person ever to have felt like this, so I thought I’d put this out there.
Post # 3
@cindertoffee: I feel you. I’m hoping to submit to some blogs myself and I won’t lie, I’ll be a little sad if I don’t get a mention in one specific one that I love. I know it’s stupid but I will.
In that case… like you said. I’ll try to remember that I married the love of my life in a wedding that is true to us and then I will get to keep him foreverrrrrrrrrrrrr and he cannot escaaaappeee *creepy face* that’s what’s most important. 🙂
Post # 4
I think it’s perfectly normal to feel like this. You loved your wedding and thought it was amazing, and then you’re basically told that other people don’t think so. It hurts. What you have to remember is that a lot of those sites have very specific styles that they’re looking for, in terms of photography/editing, decor, the physical attractiveness of the bride/groom/WP, etc. It doesn’t make you or your wedding any less awesome. <3
Post # 5
I don’t want to blog my wedding, and I’m sure it won’t be blog-worthy.
However, it sucks to want something, try for it, and get rejected. I know the feeling. It just plain sucks. And then your friends get accepted to the things you get rejected from. Double sucks sauce with extra lemons. If you felt completely cheerful about all that, that would be a lot more concerning.
Aren’t there any other places you could apply to have your wedding’s blog posted to? This is not an area I know too much about, but surely there must be more than 4. Those were probably your first tier, but after time to acknowledge your disappointment, surely there are other places you could apply to.
Post # 6
Thanks to everyone who replied – I think I just wanted someone to validate my feelings!
@joya_aspera: yes, lots, but I kind of decided not to keep putting myself through the rejection as it was getting a bit much!
Post # 7
Your feelings are perfectly natural! I would love for our wedding to be featured on a major blog and have actually already submitted to one (waiting to hear back). I am worried I will feel the same way if I get multiple rejections. Hugs.
Post # 8
I’m not married yet and I already hate the term blogworthy, esp. when people who are still only engaged are afraid that their wedding won’t be blogworthy- missing the point much?
Anyway rejection sucks but I wouldnt take it to personally, unless your wedding was a casual bunting and fairylights affair you’re not really in for a shot at the mo anyway, and here are plenty of gorgeous weddings that just arn’t like that
Post # 9
@cindertoffee: I have a blog and am just sort of getting started. its not specifically about weddings – it’s really about positive inspiration to promote women becoming the best version of themselves and relationship advice/discussion. that said, part of all of that (we believe) is pursuing passion (career wise, as a hobby, or just putting great effort and creativity into a one off thing, like a wedding) and the writer of that section just did a post about mismatched bridesmaid dresses, since thats so fashionable right now. She is also my maid of honor and unofficial wedding stylist…she is super into fashion and we are documenting the search for my mismatched bridesmaids, but i digress 🙂
I can’t make any promises but if youd like to send me some pics of some of the more unique things you did that you are particularly proud of, I would be happy to take a look at it and potentially write it up. Like i said we are TOTALLY new so it wouldnt be as cool as being on style me pretty or anything…but but he have had 360 unique visits + over 1500 page views so far thanks to my fiance teaching me basic SEO and social bookmarking! In just 5 weeks I am pretty proud of that 🙂
NO pressure at all, of course!! just thought i would offer just in case. feel free to pm me and ill send you my email and a link to the blog. regardless, you already hit the nail on the head — there could be a million reasons that have nothing to do with how unique or special your wedding actualy was that impacted their choice to reject you, and as for the important stuff — the marriage and the wedding of YOUR dreams — sounds like you nailed it. 🙂
Post # 10
I haven’t submitted to any blogs but even my photographer hasn’tput our photos up on her site… she’s posted almost every wedding she’s done since except ours! i have to admit I feel a little offended by it! Maybe she forgot or hasn’t had time.. I dont know..
Post # 11
I’m sorry you’re disappointed because disappointment is a rotten feeling. I don’t know if this helps but my perspective is that you don’t throw a wedding to impress your photographer – that is backwards. You hire your photographer to perform a service; he or she should impress you. And if you’re happy with your pictures, you got the right result. (I realize your post was about independent blogs but a lot of posters also get upset when their photographer doesn’t blog them.)
When I was planning my wedding I was very focused on the experience of me, my husband and our guests. We chose beautiful venues but I didn’t care about those bloggy details because, as a guest at weddings many times over, I don’t believe they have much of an impact on anyone’s experience. I could have chosen to allocate more money and time for that stuff, but we decided to focus on live bands, flowing drinks and great food. We danced our butts off! We had a parade! I think my wedding was a total blast – the most fun I’ve ever had, and the fact that it probably wasn’t a bloggy wedding doesn’t change that. The funnest wedding I’ve ever been to (besides mine) was unbloggy. Actually I’m not sure I’ve ever been to a bloggy wedding. I suspect that many of them look bloggier in pictures than they probably did in reality, if you know what I mean.
Of course we all have egos, so I suppose if my wedding did show up on a blog I’d get a kick out of it. But blog or no blog is absolutely no judgment or validation of my wedding. It doesn’t change a thing about the experience that anyone had. What being blogged really means is that you managed to style your wedding so that, viewed through the lens of a camera wielded by a professional photographer, it hit the right trend buttons that get clicks for the blogs.
Imagine that you have a friend or relative say to you, “Gosh cindertoffee I had so much fun at your wedding!” And you sigh and say, “Well that’s nice and all, but we weren’t blogged.” Imagine the look of confusion on the other person’s face. You know what I’m saying?
Post # 12
@Eglantine: I completely agree!
I got married waaay back in 1999, when wedding blogs weren’t really around.
I feel bad for ladies like you that get upset that their wedding isn’t ‘blogged”. Why put that kind of pressure on yourself? Who is the wedding for anyway?
A co-worker on mine got married last year and a few months later we got an email from her asking us to check out the site her wedding was blogged on. Me and my co-workers checkd out the site and while the photos were beautiful, all we could remember was that the wedding itself was the most stuffy. pretentious event any of us had been at. It was photograph worthy and very beautiful. But it was boring! They only had finger foods – and not enough of them – so we all went out to dinner – we left early because it was that bad. The band did not play any kind of music you could dance to. But all our co-worker cared about was how it looked – not if her guests actually enjoyed themselves.
I still hear 13 years later how fun my wedding was. My guests had a great time, DH and I had a great time and that’s all that matters to me.
Post # 13
Oh and I realize that I kind of did the thing you didn’t want, where I told you why I don’t think being blogged matters. I understand that it does matter to you. But I just hate to think that anyone would be made to have any bad feelings about their probably amazing, fantastic wedding because of the blog thing.
Post # 14
OP – I can totally relate to how your feeling. My photographers took over a business and created new website for it; not one of our pictures was added to the site, even though similar shots, in similar locations, were added. My photographers also submitted photos and albums to photography competitions; again, ours didn’t make the cut, even though our wedding pictures were in the same location and in the same poses as the ones that were submitted. I felt a little bad about it – like my photos weren’t good enough 🙁 Oh well, I loved my wedding and my photos, so I try not to dwell on it.