Post # 1
We’ve found invitations online that we love!!! I found a great template design which has our wedding color (aqua blue) with some damask black swirls around it — GREAT for getting the guests attention so they remember to freaking come. 🙂 We even changed the font of the wording (it was originally tiny black script but we changed it to larger black) so that it looks better.
But the invitation template is such that there is a large black letter/initial in script at the top of the invitation, and there is also one on the response card. I had no idea what that was for. I assumed that it was the bride’s initial of her first name. So I kept “M” (the one already on the template) since that’s the initial of my first name.
Then when I had my bridesmaids look at the invitations online one of them said that it should be “H” — my FH’s initial of his LAST name — “since that is the family name/to-be name.”
Problem is, I”m not changing my last name. I can’t take away the initial/letter thing up top because it wouldn’t look right. I’m still willing to still put “H” if that’s the tradition, but any suggestions? I’ve still got it at “M” right now.
I wish I could show you guys it, you know copy and paste it or something, but you can’t without going to the site and my email/password.
You could, however, see the original template if you go to zazzle.com and type in ” bright aqua damask swirls wedding invitations 5×7″ It’s the one with the large black script “M” on top, some black swirls, and has kind of tiny black script. Its words start with:
Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents Namesinvite you to celebrate themarriage of their daughter
Only if you have time…
Post # 3
Hmm, does it have to be an initial? Can you upload something like a swirly line/vine or maybe your initials over his or maybe both of your last initials with an “&” in between them?
I would not like the idea of using just his initial and I am taking his last name. This is because you do not have that initial when the invites go out.
Post # 4
Could you somehow make it so that it has both of your last name initals with a line in between them or something?
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
I think traditionally you aren’t supposed to use monograms with your new last name until after the wedding anyway, so I wouldn’t use it. Why not use both your first name initials? Would both fit?
Post # 6
I think that having just your initial would be weird, because then how is your fiance represented? I honestly think I would go with a different template than use one with a monogram if you weren’t taking his last name. Could you put two initials with an & in between? Your first initial & his first initial?
Post # 7
I think I’ll try to get in there two letters of our first names.
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I definitely think it would look best to have both of your first name initials! That would look great!
Post # 9
From what I know about monograms, it’s appropriate for the wedding invitation to be your initials…(the bride), the program can use both your first initials, but you should never combine them before the wedding on shower invitations or shower or wedding thank yous for gifts given before the wedding, the formal traditional three initals or the married last name initials would only make sense if you decided to take his name and should never be used until after marriage… so the program can also be just your initials… but at the reception site it is considered appropriate to use the married last name monogram of your new husband or your first names combined with his last name Just a fun addition, your maiden name initials are traditionally always considered yours… because in olden times, brides and their families collected items years before the girl was engaged, and because a monogram made it her item it was personalized for her. I think it is fun to collect the monograms of my female ancestors names on antiques… because I like to think that it might have been hers!
Post # 10
If possible use your first initials B+G or B&G.
I would not use his last initial or your last initial or just your first initial.
Its actually not proper to use his last initial (assuming you were changing your name) on anything before the wedding.
Post # 11
i really don’t want to use another template. it took us a while to find ones that really worked for us, the color and design, and for a good price.
what if the template doesn’t allow the two initials in there? i tried but it came out looking weird/off the page…
would it really be so terrible to just have my first name initial there? (“M”)
Or maybe “L” for love? lol.
Post # 12
I say either use both initials, or put some other decoration in there.
Post # 13
YAY!!! I did it, I fit both initials in! It worked this time…:)