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For the sake of making it easier once (if) you guys have kids who will be taking their father's name (most cases), I'd take his - even today it's hard for teachers to keep up with multiple name familes, and a lot easier to know that Billy Jones belongs to Mr and MRs Jones and not Mr Jones and Ms Smythwick. 

Also, though it's not the norm and his career might make a name change problematic for him, he COULD take your name... but be prepared for the fact that men changing their name follwong marriage (it HAS been done a few times) isn't the norm, and therefore, again, confusing for official paper work and so on.

But, if you both want to try something different, can you combine the names in a fun way?  Not a hyphenated name, but a smooshed version of both?  I had a friend marrying a guy, call him Smith, and her family's name started with Mc, so I wanted them to become the McSmiths (It sounded way cooler with the real names, I swear).

Or, your future H could also look into using his current spelling as a pen name, and he could still adjust the spelling to be less annoying.  I ahve a name like his, an Anglicized Polish/Hebrew name that my German immigrant great-grandparents brought over.  My grandfather changed it to the current spelling in WWII, because it looked too german, but no one can say it, or spell all 4 letters of it.  Personally, while I'd waivered between liking its oddness and hating it, I'll be happy to be able to one day get rid of it, as I am estranged from my father's famiy, and hate that it's so recognizable as belonging to them.