Not do sure what to do…My job is causing problems in our life goals

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not clear on why you can’t keep your job and commute after moving, is it unreasonably far away for that?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think you need to sit down with your DH and do a pros vs cons list of all of your options. Then you can rationally discuss what the best course of action is for both of you.

Your final decision will come down to what you as a couple value most. Is it maximizing your time at home together? Shortest/safest commute? Most money? Biggest house vs. better location? Most job satisfaction?

It’s different for everyone, so it’s not really a decision that people on an internet board can make for you.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@jpalm13:  It’s very standard to have an hour or more of a commute where I live, so that wouldn’t be offputting for me. I agree that it is not appealing, but it’s definitely something a lot of folks have to suffer through. Jobs are really hard to come by, and sometimes can take months to get. There is nothing wrong with starting to look and doing interviews when you get them to see what your options are. I wouldn’t worry too much about the 1 year on your resume…it’s not like it is 2 months. You can just cite the fact that you moved and want to reduce your commute.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was in a (kind of) similar situation: I just started a new job in January, but DH and I wanted to buy a house back in our hometown, and the commute would just be way too much.

When I applied for jobs in that town I just told them that while I absolutely love my current job, the commute was just too much, and I wanted somehting closer. Literally everyone said they totally understood that.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@jpalm13:   I have a long commute, too, but not quite as bad as that.  I wouldn’t quit my job until I had something else definite lined up, though.  You can put up with a long commute for awhile until you find something.  I agree with MsPanda99 that your new job will understand changing jobs because of moving; it’s an acceptable reason for leaving a position.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@jpalm13: It sucks and has an impact on quality of life, that’s for sure. 9 times out of 10, I work from home. When I’m in Toronto though, I leave the city at 4:30 PM and I get home at 6:00 PM. It’s crazy! It is such a waste of time and adds so much more onto the day. To be fair, I wanted a nice piece of property outside of the city, so that extends my commute. If I lived downtown (which I never would), I’m sure it wouldn’t take so long. However, a lot of folks are in the same boat as me – suburbs to city and back again 🙁 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d apply.  To explain the short period of time at the current job, you can say the commute became too much or heck, just say a better opportunity for you and your family presented itself.  No one can fault you for doing what is best for you and your family.  And as long as all the jobs on your resume aren’t really short periods of time, having one shouldn’t hurt anything I wouldn’t think.

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