Post # 1
I need your honest opinion. About 2/3rd of our wedding guests are traveling 4+ hours to be with us for our wedding in my hometown. Unfortunately people are being extremely slow RSVPing and booking their hotels so it’s becoming one more thing I have to chase. I’m already feeling a bit overwhelmed with the amount of things left to do so I’m considering opting out of doing out of town bags. I know it would be a nice gesture for our traveling guests, but I’m afraid I’m not going to have a final count until days before the wedding because of how slow everyone is booking. Would it be so bad to not do it?
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone expects them, and most people probably don’t know they exist. I actually never heard of the concept until I came on Weddingbee. I’m certainly not doing it. It’s perfectly safe to skip!
Post # 4
It’s totally fine. Don’t stress – they are in no way a requirement!!
Post # 5
No, I don’t think it’d be bad to skip them.
While OOT bags are certainly a nice gesture, I don’t think they’re mandatory. In fact, I would bet lots of people who don’t spend all their time in the wedding blogosphere haven’t even heard of them. If they’re stressing you out, don’t do them. If you want to show how much you appreciate your guests traveling for your wedding, maybe follow up with notes thanking them for coming after the fact?
Post # 6
Thanks guys. I was certain I was going to get responses saying they were a must. I put a lot of effort into making sure our guests would be comfortable during the wedding by making program fans, parasols, flip flops and water bottles and we have a box of cookies and chocolates for each guest as a favor at the end of the night. That should be enough, right?
Post # 7
Totally skip it. Not worth the stress! Yeah, people would appreciate it, but I’d just let it go.
If you’re insistent they have things to enjoy while staying over in your town, you could always put them together as a take away favor, displaying them on your placecard table or a table outside the door that people will walk by on their way out. Have your coordinator or a family friend set it up while people are dancing.
You’d need to do a few more than if you just stuck to out of town people, but you’d be able to take care of them now.
Post # 9
80% of my guests were from out of town – we didn’t do them. Nobody even knew to be expecting them. I think that expectation only exists in wedding-blog-land.
Post # 10
About 97% of my guests will all be out of town (only parents and brother are local) and I’ve decided not to do them either. I asked my mom if she thought they were necessary and she’d never even heard of them. I agree with the other posters, it’s something you hear more about in the wedding blogosphere than in real life. It’s also a big difference between having 10 or 20 OOT guests, and having close to 100, like I do.
Post # 11
All our guests were from out of town. We didn’t do them and I don’t regret it. I don’t think people missed them and the guests much more happy having that extra money put towards important things like food and alcohol.
Post # 12
I think they’re always a nice surprise, but never expected. It’s probably just not worth the stress for you.
Post # 13
I see them as unnecessary too, and since 90% of our guests will be from out of town, I’m not bothering with them.
I may still make a print out of sorts to list local restaurants, amusements, etc. that we’d suggest…but I’m not going to worry about the standard bottled water, asprin, snacks stuff.
Post # 14
I dont think they are necessary but I do think its a really nice gesture. Even if you are able to just put a few bottles of water and a couple granola bars or snack packages I think it would be nice and people would really appreciate it! We drove an hour to a hotel for a wedding last Friday and after getting out of work, driving home and driving out there, we were tired and hungry with not much time before the wedding. It would have been nice to have some water and snacks in the room so we wouldnt have to leave since we had to wait a few hours til dinner. However, I dont think anyone will be expecting them and if theyve never seen them they cant be disappointed theyre not there!