(Closed) Not doing OOT bags

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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1761 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think anyone expects them, and most people probably don’t know they exist. I actually never heard of the concept until I came on Weddingbee. I’m certainly not doing it. It’s perfectly safe to skip!

Post # 4
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s totally fine. Don’t stress – they are in no way a requirement!!

Post # 5
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204 posts
Helper bee

No, I don’t think it’d be bad to skip them.

While OOT bags are certainly a nice gesture, I don’t think they’re mandatory.  In fact, I would bet lots of people who don’t spend all their time in the wedding blogosphere haven’t even heard of them.  If they’re stressing you out, don’t do them.  If you want to show how much you appreciate your guests traveling for your wedding, maybe follow up with notes thanking them for coming after the fact?  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Totally skip it.  Not worth the stress!  Yeah, people would appreciate it, but I’d just let it go.

If you’re insistent they have things to enjoy while staying over in your town, you could always put them together as a take away favor, displaying them on your placecard table or a table outside the door that people will walk by on their way out.  Have your coordinator or a family friend set it up while people are dancing. 

You’d need to do a few more than if you just stuck to out of town people, but you’d be able to take care of them now.

Good luck!

Post # 9
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

80% of my guests were from out of town – we didn’t do them. Nobody even knew to be expecting them. I think that expectation only exists in wedding-blog-land.

Post # 10
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

About 97% of my guests will all be out of town (only parents and brother are local) and I’ve decided not to do them either.  I asked my mom if she thought they were necessary and she’d never even heard of them.  I agree with the other posters, it’s something you hear more about in the wedding blogosphere than in real life.  It’s also a big difference between having 10 or 20 OOT guests, and having close to 100, like I do.

Post # 11
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555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

All our guests were from out of town.  We didn’t do them and I don’t regret it.  I don’t think people missed them and the guests much more happy having that extra money put towards important things like food and alcohol.

Post # 12
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think they’re always a nice surprise, but never expected. It’s probably just not worth the stress for you.

Post # 13
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I see them as unnecessary too, and since 90% of our guests will be from out of town, I’m not bothering with them.

I may still make a print out of sorts to list local restaurants, amusements, etc. that we’d suggest…but I’m not going to worry about the standard bottled water, asprin, snacks stuff.

Post # 14
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I dont think they are necessary but I do think its a really nice gesture. Even if you are able to just put a few bottles of water and a couple granola bars or snack packages I think it would be nice and people would really appreciate it! We drove an hour to a hotel for a wedding last Friday and after getting out of work, driving home and driving out there, we were tired and hungry with not much time before the wedding. It would have been nice to have some water and snacks in the room so we wouldnt have to leave since we had to wait a few hours til dinner. However, I dont think anyone will be expecting them and if theyve never seen them they cant be disappointed theyre not there!

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