- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I had a wonderful day of wedding gown shopping a couple of months ago with my mom, FI’s mom, my Maid/Matron of Honor and two Bridesmaids. Although I hadn’t expected to, I wound up finding my dress that day and I do love it.
Our budget was to keep it under $1,500 (not including alterations). My mom had said she really wanted to buy my dress, so I hadn’t really factored it into our Wedding budget. I was going to cover alterations.
When shopping time came, I guess my mom didn’t expect me to put a deposit down on my dress that day, since we were a year out from the wedding and maybe she didn’t have the heart to tell me she couldn’t afford it at the time, so when I said Yes to the dress, she looked at me and said, “I don’t have the money right now,” so, I just covered it myself. The dress wound up being under $1,200.
I had to pay for 40% of it that day, with the remaining due 60 days from purchase, even if that was before the dress came in. My remaining payment is due soon, which I’ll be funding with money we were going to use for the Wedding, since we’re funding that ourselves.
Now, I feel stupid. It didn’t hit me how stupid I felt until FI’s mom said that she couldn’t understand why I didn’t try on any of the discounted Sample Dresses that were on the rack when we first walked in marked down to $99 (She’s VERY frugal).
I do love my dress, but I can’t count on any money coming from my mom for it and never should have. It’s not that I *can’t* afford it, I just don’t know if I want to allot that much money toward it.
At this point, I don’t know if I have many options. I guess I could try to sell it and look for a cheaper dress or whatever, but I’m sort of annoyed at how this whole thing has unfolded. I love my mom very much, but I wish she were more upfront with me about what we should have been budgeting for.
Anyone go through anything similar?