- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
My wedding is in September and I have shopped for dresses since January. I have been to seven stores and tried about sixty to seventy dress. I have literally shopped till I dropped. If I had known how hard it was going to be I would have started much, much earlier. 🙁
Anyhow, I found a few dresses that I really loved, but there was something wrong with each one of them. Number one was very heavy, so would have been no good for the hot weather I am getting married in; number two I loved, but everyone else hated, and the lace did look cheap on it; and number three I loved, but it didn’t have pick-ups, which I really wanted.
After three months of shopping, I had to decide. I went back to the three stores and tried on the three dresses. I felt number two was my favourite, but I was put off by the cheap look of the lace, as was everybody else. I was excited to try on dress number three as I had been so excited and had so loved it when I originally tried it on. However, I didn’t feel as excited this time; everyone else was crying and cheering though. Plus, 8 out of 11 bees here loved it.
So after much thought and anxiety, I decided to go with dress number three. I had adored it the first time; it has proper thick straps that will allow me to wear proper underwear and it is very sparkly. Yet, I feel like it is somehow too plain. I’m not excited about it anymore. TMI, but I was at the wrong time of the month the second time I tried it on, so I wonder if that had a negative effect, since it is clingy satin. The dress was also a smaller sample size than they usually have so it was about two sizes too small for me.
Here is the dress I bought.
My df says I am torturing myself and that the anxiety is coming from the fact that I am such an indecisive person and hate making decisions. He is right about that for sure, but shouldn’t wedding dress shopping be different somehow? I have dreamed of my dress since I was a little girl, and I feel like I should be excited about it and crying over it like everyone else seems to. At the end of the day, I feel like I had to choose flattering over what I liked.
What it boils down to is that:
1) Most gowns are strapless and strapless gowns do not suit my large chest. They just seem to emphasise it. So this meant my choice of dresses was dramatically cut down. My ideal dress is the one Sarah wore on SYTTD: http://pics.boards.weddingbee.com/152911.1.jpg.resize and http://www.lightinthebox.com/luxury-delicate-beaded-taffeta-chapel-train-wedding-dress_p242753.html?utm_source=webgains_usa&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=54264&litb_from=affiliate_webgains.
2) I adore pick-ups and am sad that my dress doesn’t have them.
3) I’m no longer crazy in love with the dress.
Is this just how it is for some people? I am so over bridal shopping, but I so wish things would have been perfect for me. I want the fairytale like everyone else.