Post # 1
So I just booked my SO’s and I’s flights to go visit my family in NC next month. And since he was able to get off an entire week (we thought he was only getting five days) I’m ecstatic. And now comes the fun part on Monday of booking the tour of the venue we ideally want to get married at. 🙂 I’m just wondering though if we should go see at least one extra place while we are down there. I have another place I would like to see, although SO’s heart is hell bent on getting married in a castle. What do you bees think?
Post # 3
What’s the rush? I wouldn’t look at venues until you’re engaged. I’ve heard of vendors being kind of upset when they realize someone’s not engaged. It’s understandable – they don’t know your relationship, so they could feel like you’re wasting their time.
Post # 4
I agree with AlwaysSunny, you can also be setting yourself up for disapointment if the engagements takes a long time or doesnt happen at all.
Post # 5
same i wouldnt be looking at any venues until you are a bride
Post # 6
Thanks for the responses so far. My SO wants to go look at places on this trip because odds are we won’t be coming back to the US for at least 8 months and he might not be coming back at all next year. But we want to get married in my hometown, and want to see the venue together in person. Also he really wants us to go look on this trip. I know he wants to be engaged by the end of the year. So we are doing this together, it’s not me just going in there by myself.
Post # 7
I think you should look at a few places, especially if you won’t be coming back for a while. If you two are on the same page time-line wise, I don’t see it as an issue to start looking.
Post # 8
I would be upset as a vendor if you showed up and we’re engaged. But I can see why you’re planning on visiting venues, so I would look at as many as possible while you’re there. You might consider buying a cheap ring to wear for the appointments so they give you their full attention.
Post # 9
Considering you’re out of the country, I’d go look at a few places unless you are 100% positive you both like the venue AND you can afford it. When you go look at it you can also get a feel for how quickly it books up and take that into consideration.
Post # 10
@asscherlover: +1. Vendors WILL look at your hand as soon as you walk in the door. You can get a cheap fake from Walmart or something. They probably won’t pay too much attention to the ring itself, but they will notice if there is or isn’t one.
Post # 11
I have a solitaire blue topaz ring, so I think I’ll wear that on my left hand when we go look. If we didn’t live outside the country I know we would wait. But between the price of airline tickets and me currently not working, we thought going on this trip would be best.
Post # 12
I did it! Wear a fake e-ring and go look. There is nothing wrong with weighing in your options if you don’t think you’ll be going back any time soon!
Post # 13
I’d look at other places too in case the one doesn’t work out, at least you have back-ups and wouldn’t have to travel back to the US to look at them. There’s nothing wrong with looking at venues before you’re “officially” engaged with your future fiancé…it isn’t like you’re planning the wedding behind his back lol.