Post # 1
Just this week, I’ve been thinking about saving for Christmas presents, and I am big into sending out nice Christmas cards. Is it tacky to send out photo christmas cards with your significant other before you’re engaged? I am thinking it leans on the side of being inappropriate, but I wanted to see what you ladies thought.
We have been together for nearly 2 years, and have lived together for 9 months. We have certain aspects of our wedding already decided, but we’re not engaged yet.
Post # 3
It could be odd but I come from a family where they’ll call you out on everything and make you super embarrassed. So if it was me, I’d save my bf and myself the humiation and questions and just do the dogs.
Post # 4
@cooperlove: yeah, what you’re saying is exactly what I’m afraid of. My family is loving and all, but these christmas cards don’t go to just family 😉 thanks for your input!
Post # 5
DH and I were together 5 years before we were married and he never showed up on my Christmas cards then. We’re married now so he gets put on it this year. Lady year’s picture was just of my corgi though. Just my personal opinion. I am a bit superstitious and don’t want to jinx anything.
Post # 6
SO and I give joint presents/cards, and we have been together for 7 years/living together for 6. I think we might have started this around our third or fourth Christmas together, but I’m not sure. If it feels weird, don’t do it.
ETA: Just do the two dogs. No one gets slighted, and no one asks questions.
Post # 7
@chic_and_fabulous: My family does a Christmas card every year, and we have fun mocking the Christmas cards they recieve every year. The most popular comment is “No one wants to see you. We want to see your kids or your dog!”
But DH was added to our Christmas card (I’m 1 of 4, with MUCH younger siblings, so my family still does one) when we got engaged!
Post # 8
I voted labrador and daschund because I’d prefer to see your adorable dogs than boring human faces 😛
In all seriousness, I would put just the dogs. Your family may think it’s odd and that you’re not taking the family thing seriously (depending on how aware they are that your relationship is very much a serious one). Also, it’s nice to keep some special things for after the engagement!
However, putting a photo of only yourself without your SO presents you as a single woman, which you are not.
Post # 9
@arathella: exactly! I definitely agree. I just messaged a dog photographer here in Santa Fe to do some portraiture. I could get a picture of myself and the two dogs in addition to the Christmas cards, but that would be a good picture for his desk, not neccessarily for pictures to be sent to the whole world. www.norahlevinephotography.com
Post # 10
Nah, we did a joint pic Xmas card last year and we weren’t engaged yet, but were living together about six months. Go for it!!
Post # 11
@stephee: just curious: did people give you crap for sending out an xmas card before getting engaged?
Post # 12
Just the dogs for sure. We sent a photo of us once to a few family members and I’m still embarrassed we did that, I think it is odd and trying too hard.
Post # 13
i did that with my ex and regret it ever since..
i did it again with my DH before we got married but livingn together.. we put our puppy on the card and in the back a very small picture of us and it just went to close friends and his dad.. i only did it because i had 20 free christmas card to try out otherwise i wouldn’t have done it..
i would say put a picture of your pups and in the message you can sign both
Post # 14
I say put you, him and the dogs. You guys are a family already! 🙂
Post # 15
Etiquette Snob here… lol
In modern society… one is seen to be a “recognized social unit” if you are Married, Live Together, have a Child Together or are Engaged.
In “traditional society”… Married is a solid YES
Living Together & Child Together a MAYBE (cause they used to be taboo things to do)
and Engaged… BORDER LINE
An Engaged Man or Woman would continue to present socially as single… in regards to these types of situations (their own Calling Cars, Stationery, etc). The only pics they’d issue themselves would be their Engagement Picture / Announcement (altho in some eras or social circles, even that was just a Bridal Portrait with info on the Groom)… OR if the couple were photographed together at an event, and their pic ended up on the “Social Pages” of the Newspaper… “Miss Chic was in attendance, seen here with her Fiance Mr Fabulous of New York City … the couple have a Summer Wedding Planned for Sante Fe”
So that are the basic rules…
In your situation, I guess the determining factor will be your own comfort level taking into account the seriousness of your Relationship (BF vs Fiance) and the fact that you live together. Only you know your “audience”, and what would or would not generate “gossip”
Lol, the Dogs are going to be cute no matter what… and no one will be offended or raise an eyebrow to any or all of them
Hope this helps (somewhat),
Post # 16
If you’re living together, go for it.