Post # 1
Hi! I am so frustrated right now and need a 3rd party to tell me if I have the right to be upset.
I got engaged less than 2 months ago. Literally IMMEDIATELY after I got engaged, my sister began looking at venues, wedding dresses, picking colors, etc for her wedding (although SHE IS NOT engaged yet). My sister also stated at this time that she is getting married in late Oct or early Nov. She will probably get engaged sometime later this year, but as of now – she does not have a ring, is NOT engaged.
Since my fiance and I have only been engaged less than 2 months we hadn’t made a final decision on our wedding date. Originally we were thinking of getting eloped in May but his mother wanted us to have a wedding. So we recently decided to have a wedding in early October. Spring is too soon to plan a wedding and summer is too hot (live in Arizona) so really only Fall works.
My sister said Oct is HER month and I’m rude. Apparently Nov is her month too since she is looking at both months. My mom also said I can’t have my wedding in Oct because that is my sister’s month. Why would it be HER month if she isn’t even engaged? Honestly I don’t mind sharing the month with her but she wants it all to herself even though she has no ring yet.
Should I be upset? Am I in the wrong or is my sister and mom?
Post # 3
You’re officially engaged, you can have the wedding when you want, as far as I’m concerned. Since it sounds like her engagement is months away, she can have October of next year.
Post # 4
Umm…you don’t get a month. You sure as HELL don’t get TWO months. You get a day. And you get to pick that day when you get engaged.
What is she gonna plan a wedding in three months? I’m assuming she’s dating someone. Well-until he proposes tell her to STFU. Pick a date in October if you want. Let them scream and cry. No ring–no say.
Post # 5
No you are totally justified. She’s not engaged yet, and even if she were, she gets a day…not a month (or two).I think that if everyone thinks that October is her month, avoid the drama and tell her that she can have October, but you’re taking November…she can’t have both.
Not that you should have to, but would you consider waiting until December? I used to live pretty close to Phoenix (Avondale) and I remember December having beautiful weather during the day time…although it got pretty chilly at night.
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Post # 7
Sorry, but your sister and mom are acting a little crazy. Until you sister is engaged, she has no right to pick any day to get married. You were engaged first, so you have first pick. I would just tell them to deal with it. You already have things thought out, so they need to come to grips with that.
Post # 8
@nicole1218: That sounds nutty. You are totally justified! Pick a date in October and let her claw and whine all she wants.
Post # 9
For real, she has no right to tell you October is hers!
In the words of Stephanie Tanner: “HOW RUDE!”
Post # 10
@allee2388: LOL! I loved that show 🙂 how very approperiate!
Post # 11
I say you go bridezilla on her, and claim the entirety of 2011. She can have October and November… next year.
That solves any question of having two family weddings too close together quite nicely. *nods*
Post # 12
@MissHoneyBun: You are officially my fav Bee! Tell it like it is! Love it. No need in dusting sugar all over it.
Post # 13
Your sister is nuts and self centered. Go ahead with your planning.
Post # 14
Woah! You have your wedding when you want to! She can decide whether or not she wants to share YOUR month when her time comes!
Post # 15
Wait, she’s not going to get engaged until later this year and she wants to have her wedding in October, which is…..later this year? How is she going to work THAT? I’m all for short engagements but that’s a little much. Are you sure she didn’t mean Oct 2012? Either way, she’s being a little brat and needs to get over herself. Is she ACTALLY going to get engaged later this year or is she just assuming she is without really knowing?
Post # 16
Your sister is acting a little crazy pants. She can have next October.