Post # 1
I would love to say I have over bearing parents, or that im overwhelmed with all the planning, but the truth is I’m just not into it. I feel like i’m doing things because I have to not because I want to. I want to marry my fiance, but haven’t been excited from the first day I got engaged about planning. I just kind of want to be married rather than get married. All the money that goes into one day seems rediculous to me. I’m saving all my money for one day and poof it’s gone. With the type of job I have – i’m a freelancer – I got through stages where I have money and then don’t….so I feel as though all my money is going into something that’s gonna be one day. Then my parents are the same…and for them to spend all that money seems annoying to me too. I feel like that could do much better things with their money. My extended family is very “invovled” and keep offering to help and more than thankful I just find it annoying. I really just want to keep things simple but I feel like i’m upsetting everyone because they want something to go and enjoy. I’ve always been the person in my family who is intouch with everyone, but I really don’t want a “big day”. I think I would be happy enough with a few people there but I know my parents wouldn’t be happy about that. Feeling very overwhelmed and like I don’t want to do any of this again. (This is how I get with birthday’s too). Whats wrong with me? lol
Post # 3
There’s nothing wrong with you— it is a very annoying and tedious process, and it is usually really expensive, no matter what your financial circumstances are. I’d recommend that you and your fiance talk about what is really important to you, and what things you can do without, and develop a vision that is really comfortable to you. Then present it to the families as a done deal, no wiggle room, this is how it’s going to be done.
If your parents are paying, though, you do have to have a little more consideration for their wishes and vision, but you have to start with what YOU want, and how you want the day to be, then negotiate from there.
It’s very possible to throw a huge party with tons of guests and not have it be over-the-top or expensive. You just need to be more creative. Some suggestions would be a casual beach reception with guests in sundresses or dress shorts, a bonfire and a pig roast (picking beach theme as your locaiton says Jamaica), or a “destination wedding” to a resort with a small group followed by a big party back home with all your friends and extended family.
Post # 4
@annabellaja: there is nothing wrong with you some people just don’t ejoy the planing process. Others are 🙂 so i hope you get it all worked out but i would definitely let them know you want to keep it simple
Post # 5
I don’t know what’ wrong with you but I know you are not alone! I would like to be married, its the getting marrie part where I am stumped LOL. No advice for you really but hang in there 🙂