(Closed) Not enough tables for everyone…

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: As a guest...would you be cool with a "cocktail" style reception?
    yes : (28 votes)
    65 %
    no : (15 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    12827 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think cocktail receptions are growing in popularity, but they definitely aren’t the norm in the States either, at least where I’m from.  Personally, I like having an assigned table to sit at, because I always know where to go back to when I get tired from dancing, and I like having a table to eat at.  I don’t like juggling my food and drink, or trying to squeeze in somewhere to have a corner of a table to use. 

    Post # 4
    Bee
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    I’m totally okay with cocktail receptions. I’ve been to one in New Orleans! I do think it’s nice to have enough seats for all of your guests to sit, because it’s hard to eat while standing and holding a drink. But I don’t think assigned seating is a prerequisite to a successful wedding by any means.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    Mm… I wouldn’t really have a problem with it so long as the attire wasn’t too formal and it was expected. I would definitely word your invitations (if they haven’t already gone out) to indicate that the reception is more informal, cocktail-style vs. traditional so people don’t arrive expecting a sit-down dinner. And maybe try and talk to your venue about the possibility of adding seating so your guests have more options? If you have any older guests/guests with disabilities who NEED a seat, you’ve gotta figure out how to make sure they can get one.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think you still need to have enough chairs for everyone to sit down at any given time, even with a cocktail style reception. You just structure it differently – maybe some high-top tables, maybe a lounge area, maybe some stools at the bar, some regular tables, etc.

    Beyond that, I think it’s all about communication and expectations. I would perhaps have some signs made for the entrance area (where escort cards would usually go) that said something about it being a Cocktail-style reception, feel free to mingle and eat as your heart desires, no assigned seating, etc.

    You could also put a note in the bottom of the ceremony program mentioning the location of the reception, how to get there, and again – cocktail party style, etc.

    I think doing something different is awesome – and I think the key to success is over-communicating and making people feel like they understand what is happening.

    You could also have your DJ make a couple of announcements as people are trickling in.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I think this is fine as long as you make it 100% clear to your guests. You can do this by starting your ceremony past dinner time (7:00 or later) and writing something like “a hor d’oeuvre reception will follow the ceremony” on the invitation.

    Post # 9
    Member
    12827 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @bretonvirgniia:  Oh, in that case, I’m totally cool with it.  I just get annoyed when there are like 5 tables, 10 chairs, and 200 people!

    Post # 11
    Member
    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I think it’s very important that there be enough seats for everyone to sit at the same time… but not necessarily at a table.

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I’ve been to cocktail hours like this but not actually a reception. That’s not to say it can’t be done (or that it’s not done — just not around me), but you’ll definitely want to help shape your guests’ expectations and still give them some options. Nothing’s more awkward than holding a plate of food in one hand, a drink in the other, and having no way to actually eat said food.

    How many guests are you having? Just wondering how much seating you’d need to accommodate them.

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