Post # 1
So I totally get that it’s difficult to cut a gust list, lots of people have a B-list of people to send invites to if/when they get a “no” RSVP. I’m sure I’ve been on a couple of B list before but never this obviously! I got a phone call last inviting me to a wedding on the 24th – like in a week and a half! And on Easter Sunday! She also said she didn’t have time to mail an invite so she’d just scan it to my email. So really, I’m on a list so low it would be called like the Q list! I’m not mad or anything but I’m also not going…Emily Post would not be happy with this invitation!
Post # 3
We received an invitation to a wedding last minute from a couple that is in our social circle, but not really our close friends. It was OBVIOUS we were Z-listed, but to be honest, I was honored that they chose to invite us at all. We went, had a great time, and they are coming to our wedding as well.
Post # 4
I recieved an invite “through email” from an aquantance.. they had 2 ceremonies (hindu and traditional).. I went to the hindu one because I knew it was the more casual of the two.. showed my face.. took a video with my phone which I later sent to the bride via fb.. AND then she had the nerve to ask her SIL (one of my best friends) how after all the trouble she went through to invite me how I ended up not coming to the traditional ceremony! Eek!
Post # 5
What SHOULD she have done? I mean I’m sure I’m going to have blantant and obvious last minute invites, and if you are offended by that I’m sorry- it is tough, just delcine and I’ll offend/ invite someone else.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t like that either. That’s why we chose to only have 1 list – invited or not. It seemed like it would just cause hurt feelings if we had a B list.
Post # 7
Don’t take it personally. We didn’t even have a B list and we forgot one couple that was definitely on our list but somehow were overlooked… I didn’t get to send them an invite until 2 weeks after the originals went out. Sometimes it happens.
Post # 8
Yea, it sucks that you know your a last minute add on, but they liked you enough to give you a chance. I would go, because I love weddings! Sorry that you were offended. 🙁
Post # 9
We just had one list. I knew not everyone would be able to make it- with that in mind, we invited 20% more guests
Post # 10
I’d look past it and go, weddings are so much fun, A list or B list, good food, good music, wedding traditions, it’s all good
Post # 11
I had LAST minute cancellations to our wedding and I FB invited a casual friend/former co-worker and she was thrilled I asked. She KNEW it was a last minute invite and didn’t seem offended. In the end we had 8 NO shows= to about $1,000 I wish I would have last minute invited other casual friends/ acquaintances and had them enjoy the food, fun and drink. I figured most people would be offended so I opted for the empty seats. One thing’s for sure with weddings, you can’t please everyone!
Post # 12
i wouldnt be offended either. At least they thought to invite you at all. There are so many people i would like to invite that i cant so if i get some guest dropping out at the last minute, i plan on calling some of those people and inviting them.
Post # 13
I feel ya! I once got an invitation to a destination wedding…the day after the wedding happened. The postmark was 2 days before the wedding…obvious gift grab there. lol
Post # 14
see, in this case, I think its totally fine and I too would be thrilled, but I am kinda getting the gist of the OPs case is that it was kind of like an… honor to be invited at all? Not sure if I have it right.
In this case, a simple…. “we had a last minute cancellation, IF you don’t already have Easter plans, I would be thrilled if you can make it”
Post # 15
B-lists (or Z lists in your case) always seem to cause hurt feelings. I don’t know how anyone thinks that it is an honour to be asked to be a seat filler at the last minute. It looks like you don’t want to miss out on any potential gifts.
Post # 16
Their invites went out months ago and quite frankly I didn’t care that I wasn’t invited, I haven’t seen this girl in years. I have no desire to be a seat filler and it doesn’t feel like an honor when she flat out says she doesn’t have time to mail an invite – I get that it’s busy in the days leading up to a wedding but I’d rather just have not been invited than to be asked to fill a seat.