Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
It’s SO annoying. Fiance and I want kids one day… but AFTER we get married is the goal. I can’t go a week without someone asking me if we’re trying to get pregnant or when we are having kids. I’m not from the area where we live, so on Monday night when I asked my Facebook friends who their doctor is, one of our couple friends asked me if it was a baby doctor… no!
I don’t like feeling pressured. Fiance and I want to wait a couple years after getting married before having children, anyway. I’m only 22, I want to have some time with my husband before having kids. Do people ask you all the time when you’re having children, or if you’re trying to have them soon? A lot of our friends are pregnant/just had children so they expect us to hop on the baby band wagon very soon. I’m still young!
Post # 3
@missmorganista: I have only had one person ask me if Fiance and I will be having kids soon, and I’m pretty sure he won’t ask again, given my response! We are relatively young, with me being 23 and Fiance being 25, and very few of our friends have children, so I think we are safe from the baby-making pressures right now.
Post # 4
I’m so glad I will never have to hear that…..I’m too old, but it wasn’t long ago that people told me it’s not too late….and I no longer have to explain why I never had children.
Post # 5
@missmorganista: I feel you sista! I (luckily) didn’t get the baby questions until everybody back home (I’m international) found out I was married. Yeah, like I got married to have babies, wtf!! the only way I got them to stop was to post a really pissy status on Facebook telling everybody to back the eff off. I was floored at how soon the question started bombarding me, I’d only been married two weeks!!
Post # 6
I get that a lot now, I just tell them there’s already one on the way, but they know I’m joking and usually they don’t ask again.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I was just surprised that I’m still six months from being a Mrs. and I am getting questioned already! FI’s best man offered me a beer a few weeks ago and then was like, “You can’t have one if you’re pregnant.” …uh hello?!
Post # 8
I know the feeling! And I hate to tell you, but it gets worse! My Maid/Matron of Honor half-joked that she couldn’t wait “to meet our curly headed babies” during her toast at the wedding, and that opened the baby floodgates! At least 4 other people mentioned babies in their speeches! Like holy crap guys, we’ve been married an HOUR! We are thinking at LEAST 2-3 years down the line.
Sorry I don’t have any advice, but just wanted to let you know I am here to commiserate lol
Post # 9
We were engaged for about a week before the talk began about kids. The first time we met up with DH’s grandmother after our engagement, we spent more talking about potential future children than about the wedding which we had yet to even start planning. Hate to tell you, but it gets worse. 🙁
Post # 10
FH and I weren’t even engaged yet when we first had people ask about babies. At least at that point it was mostly just his family, now it seems like it’s everyone. My friend’s mom asks me every time she sees me when I’m going to hop on the baby bandwagon since most everyone I know has a baby now. Some people I tell straight up that FH and I aren’t having kids, others I ask them if they will let us get married first and then worry about children.
I don’t think it ever gets any better, probably worse after you’re married and even worse the longer you’re married.
Post # 11
Yep, the most inappropriate people seem to be very concerned with when we plan on having kids. My responses (which usually shut them up for a while) are:
We are just waiting until your toddler is old enough to babysit
Your child is just so cute, how can we possibly do better than that?
We have a lot more practicing to do
You can also just stare blankly at them.