(Closed) Not every female invited to wedding gets invited to shower

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
3825 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had this same exact conversation with my mom last week. I’m gearing up to send out wedding invitations on May 20th so she says to me “you need to review the shower invite list again and maybe add people.” 

I told her the list was good to go and no one else should be added. She tried to add my uncle’s girlfriend. She’s a nice lady but she isn’t that significant to me (my uncles go through girlfriends like you wouldn’t believe). So I told her no thanks… I’ll see her at the wedding. She tried to explain to me that all of the women should be invited. I told her that I don’t control much with this process, but from what I understand, the shower list is the ONLY thing I  control. It’s whomever the BRIDE wants to see. 

Post # 4
1781 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh lord no! We’re having between 150-200 people come to our wedding and my bridal shower will only have about 10-15 of my closet friends and family. Everyone else can bring a gift to our wedding or have it mailed from our registry!


I feel like for wedidng showers, and even baby showers, it should only be your closest people that you really want to celebrate with. I find it awkawrd to have a bunch of people –some whom you rarely or ever communicat with!

Post # 5
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think in some cultures, you normally invite all the women that are invited to the wedding.  But I didn’t do that.  Like you, I invited my female family members and good friends and DH’s mother and sisters.

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