Post # 1
Well this weekend yet another friend got married, and i found out another got engaged. I feel awful im not excited for any of them…i dont mean to be i just cant help it, neither are real close friends either, but friends from High School. Im so sick of waiting that If SO ever does propose I dont think ill be excited or suprised either…Im afraid ill just be thinking…about damn time! Im sure every girl has dreamed about that magical moment when a guy gets on one knee and ask that question and now im not even gonna be excited about it anymore. I guess im just having a bad waiting day and need to vent. Im starting to over analyze myself thinking whats wrong with me, why isnt my SO ready to marry me…, ugh just typing those words makes me cry. Our 3 yr anny is in October and honesty i cant stand waiting anymore. Im 31 yrs old and i feel like my life is at a stand still..has anyone felt like this before? Were you still happy when that moment finially came? Older bees how long is too long to wait if all is in place and good in a relationship but this one little piece…i do eventually want kids and im not getting any younger….thanks for listening…
Post # 3
@Steelergirl: HUGS! I’m sorry you feel like that! It’s a shitty feeling! I think you will still be excited, I’m not engaged yet either and a lot of my friends are. It’s hard. Try to just be happy in the relationship because I doubt he would want to marry someone who is upset all the time, Show him the reasons he is with you!
best of luck!
Post # 4
Feeling like that right now totally, we’ve been together for seven years. A lot of the bees gave me really good advice though, only you know yours and your SO relationship and the nature of it. You just need to follow your heart and come on here and vent when you are feeling like you are going to blow up or lose it, which I know quite a few of us feel like some of the time! Have you guys talked about it? I finally put my foot down with my SO and made him talk about it last week and this weekend and we’ve come to a compromise. He won’t say frusturating things like “soon” etc and I won’t pressure.
There is NOTHING wrong with you. Sometimes men just aren’t ready when we are. Which really sucks. But I repeat, there is nothing wrong with you for wanting a future. and you will be excited when it happens because you love him. 🙂
Post # 5
We all go through this. You are having a bad waiting day and it’s ok to feel blue. Things will get better. I have been up and down like a roller coaster…hmmm actually I’ve been the whole amusement park! LOL
You will love it when it comes. I am still waiting but am happy with our timeline of before December this year and just recent news of him purchasing the ring threw me over the top and I find myself more patient now and not bugging him anymore 🙂
So be blue and get it out. Cry to a pillow and punch some walls, tomorrow the sun will shine again and it will get easier!
Post # 6
Hang in there! It will be amazing, your turn is coming and you will be surprised how powerful a moment it is…and something magical happens when you have that ring on your finger…out of all the girls in all the world..he picked you! It’s very special, pull yourself together, get a cupcake, have some champagne, watch a good movie and remember, everyone gets a turn in the sun!
Post # 7
@Steelergirl: I just had this SAME convo with the SO this weekend. Again, had to explain to him WHY Im so nervous about waiting. Im 31, hes 36. We need to get a move on here!!! Have you explained these feelings so your SO? I honestly just dont think they get it. They see celebs that are 40 having kids and think we can do the same. I think you need to sit him down and let him know that your not pressuring him….but that you want to get started sooner rather than later. If he understands its more biological reason, maybe he wont feel pressured
(BTW, how can you be having such as bad weekend with such a great steelers win yesterday??? )
Post # 8
Have you spoken to him about getting married?
I don’t think women should have to wait to get proposed to. I don’t like the assumption that the women is dying to get married, but that she has to silently wait for the man to be ready!
We just talked about getting married and decided the time was right, and it’s not less magical or special. In fact, now I have memories of us coming to the decision as equals.
Then again, I also choose to not have an engagement ring, because I like the symmetry of us having marching wedding bands, that cost the same.
Just talk to your bf, let him know what’s on your mind.
Post # 9
@Steelergirl: believe me your not the only one, i’m 34, never been engaged, married etc. my life is in stasis…..nothing is happening!!!!!! it’s hard, at times. my good friend got married last year, it’s hard seeing others getting what you want . but, your time will come, maybe, even me. (big hug)!!!!!!
Post # 10
Hope things work out for you – I’m around your age and waiting makes me feel like my heart is dying a slow, slow death. I think you will still be excited though, especially since from your post you don’t seem to be as resentful as some people (and by some people I mean me, haha). How old is your SO?
Post # 11
Maybe he is waiting for your third anniversary to propose? If not then, perhaps Christmas?
I’m sorry you are having such a bad waiting day, but, as a fellow Steelers’ fan, I just wanted to say that, at least we beat the Jets this weekend! That has to help … at least a little! 🙂