Post # 1
Is anyone else having dress & body image issues? How are some of you ladies holding up with the process? This Thursday, I am going to be trying on a muslin mock-up of my custom couture gown and I could be less thrilled. I feel fat, ugly, angry, upset, etc etc etc. I am having the most horrific time with body issues.
I’ve always been a little uncomfortable in my own skin, who hasn’t? But it’s always been an after thought never a source of anxiety. Last year, I was an average build, 5’7″ and 137 lbs. But after an accident last November (I was hit by a car when I crossed the street at a crosswalk), I gained about 70 lbs and currently weigh 205 lbs. Now with 4 months until my wedding, this has been a huge huge HUGE blow to my self confidence.
It really sucks because what should be the most fun part of getting married – dress hunting/trying on/designing – has been the most horrible part of my life and of the wedding. I cry when I look at myself in the mirror. It really really sucks.
On the upside, I did get clearance to begin exercise again. Hopefully the weight will come off sooner rather than later 🙁
Is anyone else going through the same thing?
Post # 3
@CrystalBlackheart: Oh no! I wish I could say that I’ve been through what you’ve had, but I just wanted to say that my heart goes out to you, and all of my best wishes through the whole process. Hopefully being able to exercise again will be the path you need to starting to feel better again!
Post # 4
I have more issues with things that can’t be physically changed, like my height. But I know where you’re coming from. Maybe once you’re back on your feet and working out again, you’ll regain that confidence back in time for your wedding and beyond. Regardless of what weight you will be, you will be beautiful and glowing in your gown.
Post # 5
I feel for you and you have every right to be frustrated. I was badly rear-ended in 2008 by a teenager that drove 40MPH into stopped traffic. I was bed ridden for months and gained 30lbs so no where near what you have had to deal with. I have shed about 20lbs but it has been a horrid battle since most of it was due to prednisone and the exercise is slow going and easy to get setbacks. I cannot imagine what you have been through physically and emotionally!!!
The good news is that you will be the most beautiful bride in the world to your fiance who is probably just so thankful to have you alive and in his arms. So just concentrate on being healthy and one thing about wedding dresses – they look absolutely amazing on all sorts of body types. You will find a dress that looks great on the you that you are today and you will marry the man that lovs you!
Post # 6
@CrystalBlackheart: This same thing happened to me. I was probably 150lbs and had to go on some meds, and gained 50lbs. It totally sucked. I had a really hard time, but eventually just tried on a bunch of ugly stuff that was horrible to make myself laugh and get in a good mood, then I tried on more serious options. It helped to see myself actually looking ridiculous, not my crazy twisted brain thinking that I did. It gave me good perspective
Post # 7
@mwitter80: @unixfairy: @techie: @pengoala:
Thanks ladies. Some days are a lot worse than others. I think because I am going to try on my muslin mock-up this week I have been feeling really vulnerable.
Hopefully I will get over it after I try on the mock-up.
Post # 8
I know exactly how you feel. I have been so terrified of trying on dresses because I feel fat in just every day clothes, so how am I supposed to feel beautiful in a wedding dress?
I hope that your muslim mock-up makes you feel better about yourself, and I bet once you start exercising you’ll feel better just knowing you are trying.
And like @unixfairy: said you will be the most beautiful bride to your FI, and you’re getting married!! That’s the exciting part!