Not excited to tell MIL we are pregnant….

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@SweetartMD:  Can you hold off telling her until you really need to? That’s what we are doing with my mother, who is very very similar to how you’ve described your MIL. Once I can’t walk down the street without someone noticing I’m pregnant will be the time we need to tell her, as then someone else may tell her and I want her to hear it from us. Boundaries are an issue for her so we’re holding off for as long as possible. Good luck!

Post # 5
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469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am scared for you! I don’t have any advice but wishing you luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SweetartMD:  I feel for you, that sucks. Can you and your DH work on setting boundaries with this woman? It will be good practice for both when you have children and need to set boundaries with her in regards to them! I know it is hard and can be awkward and frustrating, but it sounds like you really need to.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hope she surprises you. ! Good luck ! It will be alright tho ! She is at least going to be happy 😉

Post # 10
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43 posts
Newbee

I have no advice as far as announcing a pregnancy. But I definitely feel for you my FMIL’s first reaction when we announced we were engaged to them was “Oh what kind of dress should I wear?” 

I kid you not. So I know how you feel, and I am sorry! Best of luck! And FWIW, I think the silver key and saying is super cute! 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SweetartMD:  mayb. You could talk to her about it if it’s such a serious issuE. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How far along are you? If it’s earlyish, I’d wait to tell her if you’re sure that she’ll end up telling everyone and their dog about your pregnancy.

Post # 16
cherrypieBee
1059 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

Whoof, she sounds like a handful. Two pieces of advice come to mind:

1) Set good boundaries and stick to them. Being nice doesn’t mean being a doormat. If she gets in your grill or makes you uncomfortable, stick to your guns about what feels right. You’re not just protecting your own emotional (and physical, lol) space anymore; you’re also protecting that of your child. It’s OK to be firm. If she has to pout or cry, so be it. She is responsible for her feelings — NOT YOU!

2) Keep a sense of humor about her weird neuroses. It always hurts less to laugh than cry. So you might as well laugh, if you can. We’re all crazy in our own ways, but it sounds like her particular brand is especially grating. 

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