Post # 1
I’m getting married on the 1st of Sep and it scares me that I’m not extremely excited like I should be nor do I feel like a bride. Don’t get me wrong, I love my Fiancé to bits but for the last couple of months planning the wedding has just been stressful. My mom has been extremely supportive and she has been going out of her way to help me “get things done”. However, my mother in law who frankly isn’t contributing a cent towards the wedding has been getting my temper up to the wrong level. I feel like my ideas are constantly being changed and that we have been accommodating my fiancé’s mom a lot more than my own. She wanted the church which we gave to her, she wanted the bridal table which we gave to her, she wants to make a speech which we gave to her and she wanted to be involved in the planning which we did.
Im at a point where I honestly wish this wedding was over and done with because I thought planning this whole thing would have been a lot more fun. My kitchen tea, bachelorette and wedding is coming up but I don’t even feel like I want to participate because I know I’m going to feel like it’s someone else’s “party” and not mine. I don’t want to say anything to my fiancé right now because I know it will create a big fight, you know how men react to these things… he will say something like ‘you woman will fight / moan over anything’ + it’s his mother I’m moaning about. Any advice?
Post # 3
My wedding is August 4th. I have been stressing over the guest list. People are adding whoever they want without asking. My Future Mother-In-Law inviting her friend’s kids to the wedding who don’t even know the groom and didn’t ask us. The past two weeks I wish we would have eloped. I sometimes feel like the wedding is more stressful than it needs to be. I hope I get over my funk and start to feel like a bride as friends and family fly home for the wedding.
Post # 4
Been there! Not with the Mother-In-Law issue, though..At a point i was so sick and tired of all the planning i felt like you “I just want it to be over”. Take a small break if you can. Relax as much as you can.
Now, i go through my wedding album and smile adoringly, because all the little details I worked so much for did pay in the end – they combined into a lovely, romantic and special wedding day. My mum didn’t help much and unfotunatelly my Mother-In-Law passed away in March so i could not count on her love and encouragement..my sister gave me hell a couple of weeks before AND on the night before the wedding! I had a last single-day/night very, very weird, full with saddness and i remember thinking “I can’t wait to marry my love and go back to my own beautiful family and life” – we spent the last day a-part, though we’ve been living together for 7 years.
What you’re feeling it’s quite natural. It’s YOUR wedding, not your MIL’s!!!!!