Post # 1
I’m having a really rough day anything that can go wrong has. I’ve got anxiety that I’m trying to get settled with medication, so some things that seem minor to others are huge for me. For example, my day: Dropped full tub on honey on the floor it all poured out and couldn’t save it. Project for College was poor even though I worked hard on it… A hoody I was eyeing online, bought it, and they emailed saying sorry its out of stock… What?? I gave my credit card… That sort of stuff. <br />Then as I’m waiting to present my poster for class, a girl comes running up I haven’t seen in years and goes, “Hi Haruyou!! Hows it going? Did you know I got engaged isnt that funny you’ve had such a long engagment but I just got engaged and Im getting married in April!! And your, what, May? Huh!! Hey did you see the house I bought!!” and she shows me apicture… Its the house that FI and I were looking at just this past weekend. She goes, “Yeah another couple was looking but I decided to swoop in! Sucks to be them!” We we were ‘them’… Sigh….. <br />I just always feel so behind everyone… We will be married on our third engaged anniversary. It’ll be three years… I so regret waiting that long, but with finacial reasons and personal we had to wait… Now I regret it. <br />Why can’t FI and I save enough to get a house. Everyone else can. 19 year olds can but we cant?? Imagine that… Sigh… I just hate this.<br />I feel like a little girl playing dress up.
Post # 2
Haruyou: Try not to compare yourself to other people, though I know it can be really hard. And depending on your age, financial circumstances, area you live – it can be SO hard to buy a house!! I didn’t get my first til I was 30.
Post # 3
Sorry you’re having such a rough day. Just keep your head up.
We are going through a similar situation. We started dating 6mo’s before this other couple and they have hit all the milestones before or right at the same time as us. They got a house right when we got an apartment. They got their dog as soon as we decided to get a cat. They got engaged after us but are getting married same time as us. They both got new jobs before us and look like a magazine couple. I feel like I can’t keep up with everyone. We just have to remind ourselves that we aren’t running to the finish line. We are going our own pace and there is nothing wrong with that. It’s silly to compare our lives to other peoples but we do it because we can’t help it!!
Post # 4
RedHeadKel: It’s SO hard… At first, I was the one that was ‘ahead’. Longest relationship in High school,most finacially stable… Where has it gotten me.. .Nowhere because everyone else is at the same page I am. 🙁
westgirl1208: YES that is exactly us too. We get a cat and are pumped, whoever gets a dog and outshines. We get an apartment, they get a house. <br />I just can’t help but think, oh… Why not me? 🙁
Post # 5
Haruyou: It’s really not a race. I’m 32, we just bought our first house. We skipped the starter home and bought a house we can stay in forever. Why? Because it worked for us and its what we wanted.
You don’t know what goes on in their relationship, it might be great or it might not. But you know yours. Focus on you. Make yourself and your fiance happy. Do what you can afford, when you can afford it. And more importantly, when you want to. It’s not a competition.
Post # 6
sostobe: I try… It’s just really hard for me to se past that… I see someone with a great wedding idea, well, crap, I didn’t think of that will our wedding be okay still?? Sort of thing..