(Closed) Not getting any younger..

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

awww…im sorry…i know its frustrating sometimes…I went on a trip for 3 WEEKS to some of the most romantic cities in brazil…and NOTHING! so I know how you feel…and its sucks sometimes…and there is nothing we can do but vent on here!! Hang in there…..and I will too!

Post # 5
Member
2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

you are welcome ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope thats a good thing you were waitin for me to post! haha…girl you know im right there with you!

Post # 6
Member
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Im sorry your birthday vaca didnt turn out the way you wanted :/ Its rough being a waitin’ gal thats for sure! Keep your chin up ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
Member
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry you didn’t get the proposal you expected on your b-day.  Maybe he’s planning another day when you least expect it.  FI totally surprised me with his proposal one unexpected day.  I’ve been with him for 12 years so I understand what it’s like to be waiting, waiting and waiting.

Post # 9
Member
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I completey understand about the proposal part because all the times that I thought would be PERFECT to do it, he didn’t. It got so bad that he would have to tell me before some kind of big date or event/weekend that no he’s not proposing so I wouldn’t get my hopes up.

He wasn’t putting it off, he just wanted to do it on his own terms and not when it would supposedly be right. I think what put if off even more was because we talked about it soooo much (the proposal and when we would get married). He ended up completely surprising me and scheming with our families and it was perfect.

Hang in there, it’ll happen. I’m so sorry you’re upset and feeling this way. Have yall talked about when yall would want to get married? Maybe you should tell him how you feel about when you would like to get married.

 *hugs*

Post # 10
Member
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I totally understand your frustration and I am so sorry he didn’t take advantage of the perfect moment. We also went on several vacations which were literally picture-perfect settings for a proposal (I was also paying attention) with nothing. I got disappointed every time, especially on our 2-week trip to Cabo after I met his whole family a few months earlier.

Hang in there, it will happen! If you need to give him a little nudge, go on Mr. Bee’s plan! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
Member
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh also, I totally understand what you’re saying about not getting any younger. But don’t fall into that trap you set for yourself, age doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things – just that you are making the best decision for you and your relationship at the right moment!

Post # 13
Member
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Gosh I feel for you—but it’s your birthday!  And that’s wonderful, with or without a ring.   I hope you can forget those negative thoughts and enjoy your day.  all the best!  29 might just be the best year of your life!  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
Member
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

Good luck!  Have you and your BF agreed marriage/engagement is in the works, but you are just waiting for the actual proposal?  This is what happened to me, and the kind ladies on here gave me some good advice. 

They told me to go ahead and start planning, just don’t do deposits or anything.  My FI ended up proposing less then 3 mos before my 29th, but I was then able to plan the rest of the wedding in 6 months, while working OT & getting a weekend masters.  So, just maybe reconsider the year long timeline.  If that’s what you want, then fine, but in most citiies, you really don’t need that long.  I know for me, at least, it was important to get married and start family pretty quickly, so it was totally worth the 6 month engagement, and I was SO GLAD I had done a bunch or research in advance.  In fact, I saw other women getting sick of the drawn out engagement, but it felt like a perfect length for me…maybe one more month, but maybe the last month would have been crazy no matter what!  If you take the shorter engagement route, just don’t 2nd guess yourself too much…just enjoy things that are true to you as a couple!

Post # 16
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry that it didn’t happen.  He might have thought that you were expecting it so he didn’t want to do it then.  A lot of guys seem to do it at the most random time because they know that girls expect it on big events like birthdays and on romantic vacations.

The topic ‘Not getting any younger..’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors