Post # 1
I’m starting to think that SO majorly dropped the ball on Christmas this year. He keeps insisting that he’s getting me a really nice present but I know for a fact that everything he’s considered has sold out/is unavailable.
He’s a massive procrastinator and I feel like it’s really going to bite him in the ass this year. I’m really not obsessed with being showered in presents but it would be nice to get something, a card or a mix cd or something heartfelt like that.
I bought him some really beautiful presents this year with what little money I could scrape together and he knows that. He also had no problem dropping $700 on a new gaming system for himself last week.
Has anyone else had a birthday/anniversary/Christmas where your SO totally slacked off and showed up empty handed?
God, this makes me sound shallow.
Post # 3
Last year hubs went to CVS pharmacy on Christmas morning to get me something. Yeah, like that’s not noticeable.
Post # 4
@tksjewelry: Ouch. Was it at least something you liked?
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@musician32992: Yeah, my husband sucks at gifts. (His siblings are the same way. I was kind of shocked the first few Christmases I spent with them… they just don’t bother with them at all.) But in his defense, he doesn’t buy himself expensive toys either.
These days, he just asks me what I want and I tell him. Sometimes I just buy it for myself with our joint money. Haha, that sounds so lame, but I swear he’s incredibly loving and thoughtful in every other way!
Post # 6
@musician32992: Last year FI got me a bottle of wine as my Christmas gift, he went and picked it up Christmas eve and then insisted he put a lot of thought into it because it would be a wine I would enjoy. It was the same wine I drink all the time, so no there was no thought he just looked at the labels of the bottles we already had at home. This year he still hasn’t bought me anything and asked for ideas last night, to which I gave him quite a few and his response was “if I give you my credit card can you go pick out what you want?” Why even ask than.
Post # 7
@musician32992: Maybe he will surprise you. It’s entirely possible he is considering stuff he didn’t tell you about!
I don’t think my husband will get me much. I don’t need anything. Who knows, I will only find out on xmas, lol.
ETA: I realized I made him sound like a jerk. He’s quite romantic and always gets me something. It’s also always a surprise. We’ve just had so much going on that we haven’t really talked about xmas or presents.
Last year he got me diamond earrings, a sculpture, a painting, and some other things I’m forgetting. He does a better job than I do. I generally buy him tools or weekends away, which I get to go on too 😛
Post # 8
@musician32992: FI is such a procrastinator that he’ll be late on Christmas presents. Last year, for example, I really needed a pair of ear warmers. I told him there was a perfect pair, nice warm fleece, at a specific store. I think I got them right after the new year because we happened to be in the store so that’s when he bought them. Yes, I was standing right there. No surprise. No wrapping.
This year he asked me to make him a whole wishlist on Amazon of things I want. So I did. Has he bought anything yet? Nope. He hasn’t even looked at the damn thing. I was done with his shopping before Thanksgiving and he currently has 4 very large presents under the tree and a smaller one (yep, to remind him that Christmas is THAT CLOSE). It’s not that I want a bunch of gifts from him or anything, it’s just that it’d be nice to know he put forth the initiative to be on time with it.
Post # 9
@musician32992: nope. I’ll give him this, once he got there he put some thought into it. I think last year was a back massager seat cushion. There have been more than a few last minute runs to CVS for gifts from him. Lol.
Post # 10
Actually, DH and I haven’t really bought for each other for the past few years. We prefer to do things together; go out for supper and other fun activities, and honestly feel like we have other things to save for. We show our love for each other in tons of different ways and don’t feel the need to express that with gifts. I just like spending time with our family and friends over the holidays… and we spend our money on them… I think we enjoy being partners in crime and seeing the looks on our loved ones faces as they open their gifts from us.
Saying this, I can see how you might be upset if this is not the case for you two as a couple. I guess DH and I have just always been that way… we have never really bought anything for each other for anniversaries, birthdays etc…. maybe once in awhile, but most often there were poems or personal things given instead. The kind of things that didn’t cost money 🙂
I think the sentiment of a mixed CD or something else heartfelt would be great to hint at 😉 sometimes men are just clueless and need that push haha… this is actually what I got DH for our first christmas together before we were married about 11 years ago… when I was a broke 16 year old. It’s still his favorite gift to this day. My DH has never been overly sentimental, but he tells me he loves me every day and shows it to me in a million other ways, so I feel satisfied that way:)
Post # 11
@lolot: Yeah, his siblings are notorious for claiming that my presents are in the mail…it’s been almost a year and they haven’t arrived! -_-
I think the fact that he’s bought himself several thousand dollars worth of toys for himself and researched them thoroughly but can’t get me a damn bottle of nail polish is what stings. The only thing I asked this year was that I didn’t have to pick out my own present. Guess I’m getting what I asked for!
Post # 12
@musician32992: I bet he got you something nice!
I was convinced my FI got me cheese for a couple of days, if that makes you feel any better. 🙂
Post # 13
@MrsPanda99: He doesn’t “do” surprises, which is disappointing. A girl can hope though!
Post # 14
@RenoSweeney24: Hey, cheese is better than nothing!
Post # 15
SO and I have had 4 Christmases together (counting this one). Since we’ve started dating, I’ve had to let him know what kind of gifts I like. In his family, the girls totally get things like a new vacuum cleaner or dishes. No thank you! Bring on the girly body washes, jewelry, pjs etc. He does a much better job now!
Post # 16
We don’t exchange presents at Christmas. We did the first year we were together (diamond necklace for me and concert tickets he really wanted to go to for him) and that was that, lol. It was a very expensive year. We both buy each other stuff we need throughout the year now. Sometimes we don’t even do bday gifts, we don’t have a lot of extra cash hanging around so we don’t necessary want to spend a few hundred bucks on each other when we could just do a nice dinner out and a heartfelt card or something. We kinda feel like we are old souls also, so that is our excuse! LOL.
This year we are spending Christmas in Niagara Falls for two nights, just the two of us, so that was our gift to ourselves (and away from family! hah!).
Maybe your SO will surprise you! Sometimes men need really obvious hints.