Post # 1
I’m getting married in a month and as of right now we are not planning on having sex on our wedding night, mostly this is because we have close family coming to the wedding and we want to spend as much time with them as possible, also our honeymoon destination is nine hours away so we want to be rested after such a busy day. Oh, and we have rented a cabin out at our venue, but we are having close family stay there on the wedding night and anyone who drinks too much, so it would be really difficult to try and be intimate with people around, so rather than try and force it we wanted are thinking of enjoying our family and then waiting till we get to our honeymoon for our “wedding night”. Is this weird? Should we just book a hotel room for ourselves? Just want to hear from other brides–side note this won’t be our first time either, which is why I want it really special, rather than we have to do it.
Post # 3
I’ve heard many brides say that they were so exhausted after everything that night anyways that nothing happened.
However…no way could I stay with family in the same house my weddingnight. I would want the option of waking up the next morning to my husband and having sex as a married couple after we both finally got some sleep.
Post # 4
Everyone will assume you did it anyway. May as well have at it.
Post # 5
@Jer72: That is very true. Could practice doing it being VERY quiet with LOCKED doors for when you have children one day, lol.
Post # 6
Exactly! Or you could loudly jump on the bed together and make noises.
People will be jealous.
Post # 7
Totally not weird not to do it on your wedding night, but you might want to be alone anywaY, just to talk and enjoy your first married night.
Post # 8
I agree–we didn’t do it on our wedding night, we watched Beauty and the Beast and ate Taco Bell, lol. We were so exhausted. But it was so nice to wake up in the morning together, to be able to stretch, talk, and do things on our schedule without worrying about family. We DID see family later that day, but not until we were ready.
P.S. We lived together for three years before we got married, and the first time after we were married was still special. I don’t advise rushing it, or hushing it, if that’s not your thing anyway.
Post # 9
DH and I did it the day before actually XD but like a PP said, it was special the first time after. the night of, we were just … wow we’re married. that being said, you could both jump on the bed like children and make it squeak and make everybody think bad thoughts 😛
Post # 10
A certain visitor arrived 3 days before our wedding, and we were both so exhausted on our wedding night that we barely made it to our bed before falling asleep. Oh, and we had 2 kids in the house with us.
We enjoyed each other’s company properly, as husband/wife, the following night while on our honeymoon.
Post # 11
The only getting down we did was getting down on the bed to sleep. 🙂 we were exhausted and I was On my pd. Neither of us have or had weird feelings about it, no big deal for us
Post # 12
we didn’t get down on our wedding night either….. we got to the hotel after 1am… we had been up and at it for 15 hours…. we were SO exhausted that we were both falling asleep before we hit the bed… plus, my body was KILLING me from walking in heels, and not really sitting down much.
Post # 13
I was soooo tired on our wedding night and so was he but we did it anyway. It wasn’t ‘special’ but it was fun to be in a hot tub on our wedding night. How many times can ya say that in your life right? I wouldn’t have been upset if we didn’t do it though. I don’t think the day matters as long as you have some fun some time on the honeymoon! hehehe
Post # 14
We did it and I’m glad. We got back to our hotel at 130 aM (after getting up at 6 to get ready) ordered a disgusting pizza from the only place in town that was still open, ate it in my wedding dress. Just chatted and decompressed a bit then dh helped me get out of the dress and we had lazy but romantic sex. I thought it was kinda the perfect end to the day.
We also had to be at morning after brunch at 9 and the airport to go to disneyworld at 2pm for a red eye flight. I’d get somewhere private just to have the option to play it by ear.
Post # 15
We also rented a big house for our wedding weekend, but we kicked everyone out on our wedding night. Regardless of whether you plan on any action, I was really glad to have some quiet time together. We hosted a big brunch back at the house the next morning, so we still saw everyone again. We were really tired but we still managed to open a bunch of our gifts and read our guestbook.
Post # 16
We didn’t do it til a week after when we finally got back home and had some time and privacy, not to mention some much needed rest. I guess when you’ve been together a while and have already been having sex, it’s not a big deal. I can see how it might be for someone who was waiting until after marriage, but we didn’t go that route and it was nice just to go to bed early and get a good night’s sleep.