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i think that it's a little disrespectful to his family-- it's like saying, "hey, we did it at MY house and that's all that matters." maybe talk to your FI and see how he feels about it. his family might not be that traditiional and not mind at all.

i agree, you should definitely pay respects to his side of the family. this is if you are doing a traditional tea ceremony. however, if both of your parents want to modify the tea ceremony to include both sides, even though it breaks tradition, as long as both sides are happy...that's fine too. it's atypical, but you are still showing respect to both sides..just not doing the groom comes to ask for bride's hand by bearing gifts, asking hand in marriage, pay respects to bride side, whisking bride back to groom side, pay respects to groom side....and celebrate! :)  so it just depends on whether your parents care to do it right. :P