Post # 1
My FI and I were just invited to his cousin’s destination wedding this spring. Unfortunately we don’t have enough vacation time next year for our wedding and theirs, and will not be able to attend. My FI and the cousin are not close, and I have only met him twice at other weddings. We will, however, be inviting them to our wedding next year. I would like to get them a gift off the registry, but am not sure what the norm is here. Normally we would spend between $100-150 for the gift if we were attending.
Post # 3
For me if I’m not that close to the person I usually spend $50
Post # 4
I’d send a lovely card with $50.
Post # 5
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Ok for the record there is no RIGHT or WRONG amount here.
The rule of thumb is… how close you are to the person getting married, and what you are comfortable with / can afford.
Truly only you guys can decide what an amount would be that fits within those parameters for you both.
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EDIT TO ADD
Personally, I don’t go higher or lower when I am not attending from what I’d give otherwise.
Because as I say I am “measuring” based on different criteria.
With it being a Destination Wedding, you can either opt for Cash (which a lot of people do nowadays)… OR you can choose to send a Boxed Gift (from the Registry or not) beforehand to the Bride / Couple. If you are unsure of where to send the Gift (and when) it is truly appropriate to pick up the phone and make a call (or check their Wedding Website to see if there is any info there)
“Hi Sue, we got the lovely Invite to your Wedding. Unfortunately Richard & I won’t be able to make it… but we’d like to send a gift… could you please tell us what is the best way to do that… address where you can have it delivered or picked up etc that is most convenient / secure”
Post # 6
@emeraldcity13: As you are not close, something off the registry that is give or take $50 sounds kind to me.