Not happy where I live, feeling alone and stuck!

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

parisTC9:  When I was married the first time, my ex was transferred every year. I quickly learned that there are nice people everywhere and that nice people live everywhere. Every town can be a nice place to live if you are open to its’ positive side. If you choose to focus on the negative, that’s what you will see.

You are the one who needs to make friends, so you need to take the initiative. Take classes or join groups for activities that you love or want to learn. Try meetups.  Ask people out for coffee after.

Do some volunteer work. You will meet people with wonderful souls. Get involved in a mentoring program like Minerva- for young women.

You never know what contacts the people you meet have and where they will take you.


Post # 4
207 posts
Helper bee

As someone who’s moved multiple times for my career I feel for you.  Eventually even if you like the place you get tired of “starting over” and trying to make new friends etc., and as we get older and everyone around us appears at least to be getting married, I can understand where some of what you’re feeling is coming from.

Last year, I made another move (3 different states in 4 years) and I decided that while it was fun, and I’ve made some good friends along the way, and gained alot of life experience, that my next move (if I were to move – I’m happy here in a good relationship, affordable part of country) would be back home closer to my family.

My only advice is to stop worrying so much, there is no time limit on your life.  If you are unhappy move back home when you find a job and if you hate the move, move again.  Never be afraid of failure, some of the best things came out of failed prototypes/ideas.  Best of luck to you!

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