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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    My fiance and I were supposed to both have our bachelor & bachelorette weekends this weekend.

    My fiance is going camping/ drinking for three days.

    Recently my father needed to have surgery, and now, he can't be alone for more than 3 hours at a time.  He has moved in with my FI and I for the next 2 weeks until he feels better.  The girls were going to do dinner, drinks & a comedy show - but that is way over 3 hours.. so I thought maybe we could scrap it for this weekend, and do it next weekend.

    Well the only bridesmaid that can be there for my bachelorette is my #2 bridesmaid - and she isn't in town next weekend.  So unless we have a short, last minute dinner thing this Saturday - there's no bachelorette.  She mentioned that maybe we could do something a couple weeks after the wedding.... but I'm not sure how I feel about that...

    Now my dad is my first concern, and he comes first.  I'm not sure I'm upset, but I'm sort of disappointed.  I'm not sure what to do.  Any ideas?

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm sorry about your dad!  I didn't have a bachelorette party.  Honestly, I think you can just go out for a celebration dinner after the wedding with your girlfriends for the same effect (if you aren't a penis straw type person which I'm SO not).

     
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    Could you do dinner at someplace nice and then come back to your place for drinks and a rented movie?  I know it's not the ideal of what you had in your mind but you'll still get to spend time with your girls and you'll be there for your Dad. 

     
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    Do you have a family member or family friend that could be with your Dad while you are at your bachelorette party?

    If not, do a nice dinner with your friends, and then go back to your place for drinks. 

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    I'm sorry to hear about your dad; I hope he feels better soon.

    If it's not in the cards to have a bachelorette party this weekend or next, don't despair! Yes, it's disappointing, but like you said, your dad comes first. I think it'd be fun to have a post-wedding party, only you could call it something cute, like your "Bachelorette No More!" party or your "Yay I'm Married!" party. Who needs an excuse to have fun with their best girlfriends? Not me, and I bet not you either :).

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    Thanks everyone.

    My dad is doing VERY well.  And my bachelorette pales in comparison to him, so him being healthy makes me very happy. 

    MissAsB - I know you posted something in another thread, thank you for your concern, it is much appreciated.

    I think my #2 BM and I came up with a solution.  I think we are going to try to do a dinner the thursday before the wedding.  More people will be in town, my dad will be back at his place & I can sleep in on Friday :)

    Thanks for all your suggestions guys!

     

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