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Not at all - that is ridiculous!!!!
I have been to a wedding without a wedding party and it was soooo beautiful and it almost seemed like it was even more about the couple and more intimate because there was no one up there distracting me from looking at the couple.
See! That's what I think, but it concerns me that people will think otherwise. I wonder if those people are just idiots. :o
Your wedding, your rules. Simple as that. They're not getting married, spending their money planning your day. Plus, no drama worrying about picking out the dresses and making sure everything's matchy-matchy. It's your day! :)
i agree with you, i wish i didn't have one most days.. i think it's a great idea cause no one gives a toot about your bridal party anyway.. right?
and even in catholic weddings, the bridal party doesn't sit up front with you, they sit in the front row, but the don't stand next to you through the whole ceremony! let's be real here.. obviously i'm on your side! lol
We're not having attendants for a variety of reasons, and I am confident nobody will think badly of us. Hmmm well actually now that I *think* about it, FI's mother disapproves and thinks we should have a wedding party. But she's crazy, and I don't care what crazy/negative people think anyway! :D
Having a wedding party can be fun, but it's also really beautiful not to do it.
I just hope people keep comments to themselves on the day of because I don't want to have to "defend" my position. That will irritate the piss out of me. I am fully prepared for the venue to be a pain in my side because I am doing things a little differently---but I can handle that I think.
brittanymichelle: HAHA Thanks! But you've never seen a wedding party stand up front during a Catholic ceremony? Wow, I have about four times. Maybe it's just done differently at each church. We aren't holding our ceremony in a church so that's another "rule" I don't have to worry about.
Uh, I hope not, because we aren't having a wedding party either! I can't believe someone actually said that to you.
It doesn't make you look bad and it will thrill your photographer to pieces :)
We aren't doing a wedding party either. When I tell people - they are somewhat surprised - but I've never felt like it's a bad reflection on either of us.
Olivejuice: Yeah, people have usually said, "Oh, why not?" Then I tell them and they something along the lines of, "Do you not have friends or something? Won't that look strange or bad that people don't want to stand up there with you?" I have to always correct them that we decided to not go that route. UGH Pain in the butt.
QueenBecca: Our photographer is great and only been in the business for about three years and this will be her first wedding without a wedding party. She was so excited she said we will have more time for fun B&G photos all over the place :)
Ugh, it's annoying people assume things. Just keep it light and mostly just don't care! Smile and let criticism and questions and whatever else they throw at you slide off you! (:
At each of my weddings, we have had two attendants. The first one, 30+ years ago, it was a maid of honor (my sister) and a best man (friend of the groom). The second one, last October, it was a maid of honor (my daughter) and a dude of honor (my son). Even that big a wedding party is not necessary, but it was convenient so we'd have people around to do things like hold the rings, or hold the bouquets when we had to do something that required putting them down. Go with what you want, and forget the silly people who think everyone has to do things the exact same way.
There is definitely nothing wrong with this, and I think it's actually kind of romantic. We decided to have a bridal party, but to only include siblings, so we have two people on each side. It makes it so much nicer and less stressful not to have to worry about coordinating all of our friends. If you want to incorporate friends/family somehow, have them hand out programs or do a reading.
I don't think it looks bad. We weren't going to have a wedding party as we had just moved back to hub2be's hometown, and i have no one close around here, and fam/friends unable to travel, we have ended up with 2 ea but it feels wierd since we started out with none. plus my bridesmaid is my FSIL, not that i mind her being in the party but FI asked her and then told me, so there was no way i could say no without causing some family drama!
As far as I know, all you need are two "witnesses" to sign your wedding license. We ONLY chose a MOH and Best Man, and then ushers to seat people. It makes life much easier. And we didn't have to worry about costs, bridesmaidzillas, and other wedding party members who we might not want to stay in touch with years later - in our wedding photos. Win-win-win!!! Not unhappy with our decision!!! :)
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When people ask about our wedding party and I tell them we aren't having one I usually get a look of concern. Some have even told me that people may think badly of us because we don't have a wedding party standing up at the ceremony. I'm sorry, but I think this is B.S.! What do you think?
I realized that my "best friend" wasn't the kind of friend I thought she was when I first started planning my wedding 15 months ago because she was ticked she'd have to pay for her dress--which I did not expect to be a fancy and expensive dress but still a nice dress and in navy, didn't care what it was. Yet now she is going on a week long trip to Mexico for another gal's DW and is so excited about it (next May)---oh, and that girl is paying for her dress so apparently it's all okay.
That example right there is one of the reasons why we decided to not go with a wedding party--to cut down on the stress. Do you think it makes us look bad to not have attendants up there with us?