(Closed) Not having flower gir or ring bearer

posted 9 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Worker bee

We’re not and no one under age 21 is invited to the wedding.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I didn’t.  I think they could be absolutely adorable.  But they can also be unpredictable and cause a scene, or be a show stealer.   Most of the weddings I’ve been to haven’t had children in them.  Don’t worry about it, too much.

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t have a flower girl or ring bearer either.  We have some somewhat potential candidates for both roles but we just decided to nix it altogether.  I didn’t want children at the wedding to begin with but we have too many out of town family members and that just didn’t prove feasible.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We’re not having a flower girl or ring bearer, either. All of the appropriately aged extended family members are unable to travel from overseas for the wedding, and none of my close friends have children yet. I think it would have been really cute, but we just didn’t know any kids. Oh well!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We’re not having either. First off, we’re not having a wedding party, but like you, there’s no one age-appropriate.

I’m trying to figure out what to do with the rings — just give them to the officiant? Have another family member on the front row hold them?  Do you have any thoughts on this for your own wedding?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

nope i am not having either at my wedding

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Usually, even when there is a ring bearer, the best man will hold the rings, and present them during the ceremony.  Sometimes, the best man will have the bride’s ring, and the maid of honor will have the groom.  Or a dad or special person can have them too.  For our wedding, our "ring bearer" is going to be my fiance’s uncle. 

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re having a ring bearer and a flower girl, but only because my sister’s two kids are pretty much the perfect age (7 and 4) and I wanted to include them.  Most of the weddings I’ve been to don’t have flower girls/ring bearers, and I think it can be a bit twee (but we’re not having a real "bridal party" either — too matchy-matchy and political!)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Im not having either. No little kids in the both sides of the family.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

more than likely we will not be having a flower girl – mainly because we know no little girls – i’ve thought about having two ring bearers – but we may not even have one at all. so we might not have either.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We are not having a ring bearer or flower girl either since there aren’t any young kids in the family. I don’t think it is overly necessary and you shouldn’t have anything to worry about.  For us, the one groomsman will hold them. Maybe you could do that or even have someone special hold the rings like a parent or sibling? I’m finding many special ways to include the parents, my one brother and his one sister since theyre the most important people to us! 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

We’re also not having children in our wedding.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

no kids for me either, I originally wanted to because I have some family friends that have kids I adore but their parents don’t want to bring them! I’m totally fine with it though, it makes it a lot easier for me to say ‘no kids’ to other people now.

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