Not having one sister as a BM

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should she be in the Bridal party?
    Hell no kick her to the curb! : (4 votes)
    20 %
    Yes that's still his sister. : (7 votes)
    35 %
    It's your day do what you want. : (8 votes)
    40 %
    Other advice will comment. : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Is she flaunting the ex in front of you, or hanging out withtheir separately from you?  Its not like they haven’t talked in 10 years.  It’s possible this actually has nothing to do with you, whatsoever.

    Post # 5
    Member
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    She’s being immature. Save yourself the drama and don’t have her in the bp.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Well, I disagree that it’s rude to have one but not the others- I have my 2 younger sisters (who I grew up with) as my bridesmaids but my two older siblings are not in the bridal party.

    I also think that you’re both being a bit immature about this- neither of you gets to dictate who the other is spending time with. If she is really upset that you’re spending time with your FI’s dad’s side of the family, she needs to grow up! I also think you MIGHT be blowing this out of proportion though. I don’t think that her spending time with the ex is neccessarily to get back at you (they were already friends). I’m pretty laid back about ex’s though, so maybe I just don’t get it. If FI’s sister started spending time with his ex, it would never cross my mind that she was doing it to get to me and I wouldn’t think it was disrespectful either.

    Post # 9
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @eecuadrado:  Sounds like you rose to the bait, then, and ket her know this was going to get under your skin.  Eithertrust be the bigger person, and completely ignore it, or kick her out of the wedding party, then completely ignore whatever she dies after that.  Either way, decide of you can handle a shit disturber for a bridesmaid, act in your decision, then completely ignore her crap.  If she is doing it to get a rise from you, she will probably move on to something else she thinks will annoy you.  If not, she’ll keep doing it.  But if you’re going to drop her from the wedding, you are going to be causing some amount of drama. No need to compound that by dropping the other three sisters.

    Figure out what you want to do, do it, then move forward.

    Post # 11
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It seems like there’s too much drama going on and everyone is taking things a bit too personally. I’d keep everyone as a bridesmaid for a couple reasons. If you’re trying to keep the peace, and there’s drama about you hanging out with your FH’s father’s side, imagine the family rift if you demote a BM. Also, I don’t think who she hangs out with should really matter. Just ignore her flaunting it and she’ll realize you don’t care. It’s really not a big deal.

    Post # 12
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    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @eecuadrado:  

    Ahh, yeah I didn’t see that before I posted, that is a little off..

    You’re not obligated to have her in your bridal party, I wouldn’t drop the other sisters though.

    Post # 13
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    IPad autocorrect is freaking terrible, just for the record.

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