Post # 1
If you will remember, our officiant decided to move our ceremony back 3 hours due to another couple wanting that spot. I raised my stink about it, but it came down to the simple fact that the couple before us was active duty and I was a dependent. As much as this bothers me, I feel this could possibly be a blessing in disguise. The 4 oclock ceremony will give us AMAZING sunset photos and the candle-light at the reception will be absolutely to-die-for.
I’m trying not to be upset and look at all the positives. The chaplain said that the fact the chapel OK’ed the “civilian ceremony” in the first place was a miracle because they do “active duty” couples only. Her snarkiness and down right ugly attitude has me in search of another officiant. Or maybe even having a courthouse wedding just so we know it’s official, and then have his family member (that is in fact ordained) proceed with the ceremony. (Much like Ms. Glasses is doing).
What do you think?
Post # 3
Are you going to lose your venue if you have FI’s family member proceed with the ceremony? Would it be better to just keep smiling graciously?
Post # 4
I think you shouldn’t have to be around anyone who isn’t going to make you feel happy on your wedding day. That goes for guests, vendors, and officiants too. If you don’t like your officiant’s attitude, then by all means replace her!
Post # 5
Actually, they are giving us an option to choose our own officiant, which is nice.
Post # 6
Hmm…I wouldn’t want someone marrying me who I didn’t feel was fully supportive or wouldn’t make me happy. Since you have the option to choose your own officiant, I would probably go that route and use someone you know and love!
Post # 7
I say choose your own officiant! Also, I think a 4:00 ceremony will be beautiful!
Post # 8
i think it’s time you look for another officiant, you don’t want to be reminded of prior rudeness on the day of your wedding, or possibly deal with more of it…