Not invited

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

Susied71:  I’d tell the invited cousin that as much as it pains you, you cannot accomodate the two additional guests. This is her mistake, not yours.

Post # 3
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Susied71:  Phone the cousin “There must have been a misunderstanding. We are unable to accomodate any extra guests. If that means that you will be unable to attend, we understand and will miss you at the wedding.”

Post # 4
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

julies1949:  +1…this. 

Post # 5
7019 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Susied71:  Are other cousins’ children invited? If not, you – no, your Fiance – should explain to her that it’s a small wedding, and if you invite her son, then then you need to invite all cousins’ children, and the size of the wedding will get out of control.

Why can’t your fiance make waves? The person who has been rude is the cousin. Sometimes rudeness needs to be confronted.

I’ll emphasise again that this is FI’s side of the family so he should deal with it.

Post # 6
3643 posts
Sugar bee

He should make the call to her, since it’s his side. If he doesn’t, then you’ll have to. You have 7 weeks left, which should give you plenty of time. If not, and other relatives see the son and his girlfriend there, and they couldn’t bring their families, there will be bad feelings.

Thankfully, most guests know that the name of the invited guests are those written on the invitation. We ran into the issue with my daughters’ weddings. The first one was strictly 21+. We are no longer on speaking terms with my brother in law, because we didn’t make exceptions for his children. (And I’ve never even met his son – now 11). And for my 2nd daughter, her cousin (who had requested a childfree wedding, of course), wanted to bring her toddler, whom she described in her e-mail as “the little monster.” We said no, due to the small venue and potential of 30 children, who would have to be added. She sent a gift to daughter #1 – daughter #2 didn’t even get so much as a congratulatory e-mail.

Good luck!

Post # 8
272 posts
Helper bee

I would politely inform that the invite was only for that 1 person. It’s simple and they should follow the invitation card.

Post # 9
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Do exactly what Julies said. There’s no need for you to have random people you don’t want at your wedding b/c your husband is a pushover.

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