- 4 years ago
I joined just so I could ask this question. It happened a while back, but it never really got addressed and while I can let it go, I guess I want to see what others would have done in my situation or how they would have reacted. I have two older sisters and while they are close in age to each other, I’m about five years younger. When one got married a few years ago, I was asked to be a bridesmaid along with the other sister, and I thought I had been invited to the bachelorette party too. until I found out I had been invited to the bachelorette party for all the people who couldn’t make it to the real bachelorette which was a trip to a tropical Resort. At first I thought, OK, we’re not really close to each other, I was in school, I sorta understand. But when I went to the alternate bachelorette I realized the people who had been invited but couldnt go, were my sister’s future cousin-in-laws who couldn’t go because of their young kids/Friends i didnt recognize.So it wasnt only really close friends. The sister who was getting married said she “thought I couldn’t go because of school.” The other told me recently that it’s “embarrassing” to her that she didnt think to invite me, and is sorta claiming she doesn’t remember/another girl helped plan it (a close friend of the bride who I had known since I was a kid, and obviously knew I existed). She meant embarrassed because she had to tell her own best friend about it when it came out that my feelings had been hurt (Her best friend went on the trip too, she didnt have to tell her but she chose to for whatever reason, I’m not hating). I didn’t buy it when she said she didn’t remember, but I already know Im not going to get any closure from either of them or asincere apology. Neither came to me when they realized I had been hurt.
I felt dumb being a bridesmaid when I hadn’t been invited to the bachelorette.i did it because of familial pressure. I mean, I know we had never partied together before, and we are not super close because of the age gap (we grew up together), but am I out of line expecting to be invited at all? School didn’t seem like a good excuse because even people who were new moms/working full time were invited, and it was during summer (it’s not like she checked to see if I would be available either or if I could take a long weekend). I feel like she invited people who she thought would decline anyway, but then how come not me if she figured it would conflict with school? It made me realize how little I mean to both of them, and it canceled any hope of becoming closer to my sisters as I grow older. Am I overreacting? I’m ok with not ever being close to them because we were never close to begin with, so I should just forget it right? I guess I need to know how to approach this so I can forget it. What do you guys think?