Post # 1
My niece is having a small destination wedding. She did not invite me although I have always remembered her birthdays and holidays with gifts. She has invited others who are not related to her but are friends of her mother. I am very hurt and do not wish to give her a gift. Is this proper?
Post # 3
Technically, you don’t have to give anyone a gift, even if you are invited. If you want to give one, do. . . but if not, don’t.
Post # 4
Welcome to Weddingbee! Well, she didn’t invite you, so I think that releases your obligation for getting her a gift. Maybe you can send her a nice card with a thoughtful note inside?
Post # 6
A thoughtful card will do. For your niece to expect anything more would be downright snarky. In the meantime, keep your head held high and be glad you don’t have to pay for a plane ticket!
Post # 7
I agree with the ladies, you do not have to buy your niece a gift. A card with best wishes would suffice but even that is not required. I am sorry this happened to you.
Post # 8
I’m sorry that this happened. I know you must be upset. I don’t think you have to send her a gift and if you don’t want to, that’s totally fine. BUT, if it were me, I would get over it after awhile and be a litle sad that I didn’t give her anything. I’m a nut!
Post # 9
I am in the camp that if you don’t want to send her a gift, don, even if it’s because you are hurt. You might want to make an effort to send a nice card, so you don’t look like sour grapes. But she made her choices regarding her wedding. It’s fine for you to respond accordingly.
Post # 10
Is it possible that she didn’t think you could afford it, or that her mother is paying for part of the wedding and that’s why her friends were invited? Is it a very small wedding? I don’t think anyone was trying to snub you by not inviting you, but I don’t have all the details.
Despite all that, a gift is NEVER required. To keep an amicable relationship, I would send a card if you don’t feel you want to give a gift.
Post # 11
Don’t feel obligated to give her a gift but like others say, a card will be a nice sentiment that will not cool your relationship.
Post # 12
I’m sorry you are hurt by this and did not get invited. A gift is not necessary but I agree with the other posters that a nice card will do!
Post # 13
I agree with the other ladies here: no invite = no gift.
I’m sorry too that you weren’t invited – but like other ladies said – it saves you from having to buy a plane ticket and pay for accommodations.
Post # 14
If you are not invited to the wedding or a reception when they return, then no gift is required.
Post # 14
One technically isn’t obligated to give a gift even if you are invited (although you really should). But no invite = no gift, plain and simple.
Post # 15
metalsandman999: this thread is 6 years old. I doubt the OP is still in need of advice