Not inviting Ex-step father

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should He be invited?
    NO! : (61 votes)
    97 %
    YES! : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @ForeverAndEverAfter:  I think on your FI’s biological father and his current step father have to be invited. The former step father doesn’t have to be invited so it’s just a question of do you want to.  If he constantly fights with your FBL then to avoid conflict don’t invite him. Good luck

    Post # 4
    Member
    44606 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wouldn’t.

    Post # 5
    Member
    6881 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t invite him. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    10457 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Ummm definitely not. I see zero reason to invite him.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6021 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    You said they fight non-stop.  No one wants him there unless you are looking for problems and drama …. will he sit in the front row with the rest of the family?  Does he sit at the table with FMIL?  

    Why would you want someone at your wedding that makes everyone miserable?  It’s not like a grandmother, this guy is nothing to your FH, FMIL & sounds like he doesn’t mean much to his own bio son.  Let the FBIL’s Future wife deal with the mess. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    7636 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @ForeverAndEverAfter:  Why should he be invited just because his son (FI’s brother) will be there? I’m sure FI’s brother spends time with each of his parents separately, and is quite used to being at events with only one parent.

    Post # 9
    Member
    5664 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Nope. if everyone is agreement, no need to invite this guy. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    7225 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @ForeverAndEverAfter:  I think this is your FI’s decision but no, i wouldn’t invite him. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    2613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @ForeverAndEverAfter:  It’s your FI’s call but under the circumstances, I don’t see that he requires an invitation. 

    Would he feel slighted and gripe to your FBIL if he doesn’t receive one? 

    Post # 14
    Member
    2613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @ForeverAndEverAfter:  Just curious but why would you need to tell him he’s not invited?  Wont he know when he doesn’t get the initation?  It just seems like calling him to tell him he’s not and to please not come would just be inviting drama.  Plus, it would be rude and give the ex SF legitimate reason to complain about you.  

    Post # 15
    Member
    2537 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I wouldn’t invite him – he’s his BROTHER’S father, not his.

    He sounds like an asshat.

    Post # 16
    Member
    12264 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    He’s not your FI’s stepfather any more… I wouldn’t invite him! And he’ll figure it out when no invite comes.

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