- 7 years ago
My Fiance and I are planning two major events for our wedding celebrations – a Chinese banquet (to appease my parents and extended family) and a ceremony + lunch on 2 separate days.
During the excitement of our engagement I emailed the details of both to my extended family 6 months before our wedding date (big mistake!!)
After doing a serious count of the numbers, a large wedding was NOT what we wanted, so we are planning to invite everyone to the banquet, while immediate family and close friends only to the ceremony + lunch. We are intending to dress up the banquet so it has a wedding reception feel to it.
I have been instructed by my mom to NOT tell my extended family that they are not invited to the ceremony + lunch – I agree to an extent because I can see some particular members being extremely offended. However, I don’t like the idea of being dishonest as well.
So there are a few issues at stake here:
1. I already emailed the wedding details (though not an official save the date or invite) – should I be worried about changing the details?
2. Do I fess up that they are no longer invited to actual wedding, or keep it hush hush?
3. Banquet will occur before actual wedding – do I still call it a wedding on the invite?
We have no issues or problems with my extended family – it just came to a point where I really hated my wedding because it was getting too big. I have not felt excited or happy about it until now, after doing an extreme trim of the guest list.