Post # 1
My FMIL asked me whether she should invite FI’s aunt and first cousin’s wife who live out of state (Ohio and Georgia) to my bridal shower she’s throwing me. She feels it will look too gift grabby, but she also was considering that they may feel hurt or left out. She wanted to know my thoughts, so I told her I would invite them so as not to hurt their feelings or make them feel left out as they are close family. I personally think it would be kind of rude not to invite them (they received STDs and will be receiving invites to the wedding).
what did you Bees do about this? I think for close family members like aunts and first cousins they should feel included even if they can’t come due to distance (I’m not 100% positive the Ohio aunt can’t come, it’s about a 3 hour drive).
Post # 3
I included everyone even those long distance because I wanted everyone to feel included. It was not about being gift grabby though for me. It was more just an overall inclusion situation.
Post # 4
I didn’t invite OOT guests for the shower. If they questioned it I just simply said “I didn’t want you feeling like you had to either make it or send a gift in lieu of attendance” and they all accepted it.
ETA: All my OOTers were plane rides away, definitely not a couple hour card ride away.
Post # 5
Three hours isn’t so bad. She may want to come and make an overnight trip.
Post # 6
@MsYankee: I would invite them.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I still had invites go to out of town guests. I drew the line at out of the country.
I wanted them to feel included.
Post # 8
This is making me feel better about my response to FMIL – for a second I was thinking maybe I was being gift grabby without even realizing it. But when creating my list for my showers (I’m having 2 – one for each side of the family) I thought about who I wanted there, and invited those women – not who I thought could come or not, and definitely not thinking about who would buy me a gift. I invited my OOT college friends (my best friend circle) because I knew they would be extremely hurt if they weren’t invited, even if they can’t come. I know at least one is coming so far (booked her flight) and another one already sent us a very generous gift.