Post # 1
This is a guy that FI wants nothing to do with, but when it comes to the guest list, suddenly Cousin is in. Cousin is a total creep, says really inappropriate things to me at family events, and under normal circumstances we have nothing to do with him. He makes me very uncomfortable, and MIL agrees. He’s a weirdo.
Not to mention, we have enormous families, and we’re already over our max for the guest list.
FI’s point is that we can’t cherry-pick cousins. It’s all or none… but does it really have to be that way? I thought this day was about us? Why would we want someone to celebrate our relationship when he, ahem, has nothing to do with our relationship? Is it really that bad to exclude certain family members? Why/why not?
Any thoughts/experience greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
That’s a tough one. It might definitely look bad if he’s the one cousin you don’t invite. But don’t forget, there are going to be so many people there, you won’t even have time to realize he’s around (if you are having a medium-large kind of wedding). How many people are you expecting?
Post # 4
Your wedding is your day, you invite the people you want there. If you have a huge family and are closer to some cousins, absolutely invite them. I have 3rd cousins one side that I see all the time and my other cousin’s kids, I’ve barely met. I don’t think it had to be even at all. I know people will disagree with me but I don’t think its about etiquette, a wedding is supposed to be full of those who we care about and a creepy cousin that you don’t like has no business there.