Weddingbee boards

Hi,  i'm a newbie (& newbee, har har) and a little intimidated by the web etiquette, but felt compelled to write a post.  I joined the hive because of the amazing women who are on here--supportive, positive, responsive and overall fabulous.  But I couldn't shake a bad feeling after reading the recent emotional minefield over the Say Yes to the Dress post.  I forget if someone said it or if it was just subtext, but lately I've been hearing a lot of "why do X (insert DIY project, or money spent, or other time/effort), it's only one day."  But for my family, my finace and me, it's more than just one day.  It's months and months of planning.  It's years of remembering.  It's bringing together the people we love to declare our love.  Like it or not, but the wedding mold is so engrained (and deviated from) that any choice about your nuptuals says a lot about who you are and where you are at.  A movie is not just 60 minutes, it's a year of bringing together producers, writers, actors, editors, etc. to make something bigger than any individual.  Just as the marriage is bigger than each spouse individually, I think the wedding is bigger than just the four hour window you've booked the venue.  Have any of you guys felt compelled to justify your choices?  Who wants to stand tall for spending six hours bent over a glittery mess or surfing etsy for the "perfect" bridesmaid necklace?  Maybe sometimes we get crazy, but we also over-guilt from self-doubt.  Let's have some bride-pride ladies!  We're nuts because we're in love!

I was trying to move the discussion away from the hairtrigger issue of price per se to show that we all put a lot of thought and care into our 'day.'  Was not implying that my parents' simple wedding wasn't lovely or that I have lost sight of the meaning in my relationship or that I will break down if a centerpiece is out of place because it has to be "perfect."