- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
I could really use some support tonight. I just got a frantic call from my mom, and got some bad news about one of my close aunts. (No, she didn’t die or anything like that)
This aunt is one of my mom’s two sisters, and both of her sisters live close to my grandparents about two hours away from us. A long time ago (7-8yrs) this aunt was diagnosed with MS (multiple sclerosis). It effects her nervous system, which then effects her both mentally and physically. We used to be really, really close, but because of some of the side effects of her disease (depression, anxiety, etc) we drifted apart within the last few years. She’s on lots on antidepressant meds and other similar meds for the mental problems associated with her disease. The bad part is some of these effect her in other ways too, such as making her more likely to take risks, being unresponsible, etc (Note*We know part of this is from the drugs as other people on same drugs had the same reaction to them).
*I know this is getting long, hang in there with me*
A few years ago it came out that she was cheating on my uncle. It had been going on for a long time. Actually, it happened very early on in their marriage (they’ve been married for almost 21 years), and then when it happened again it was with the same guy. Along with this she’s started being completely irresponsible with money, so much so that my uncle has to work extra jobs and cut her off from the credit card accounts.
Just tonight when my mom called, she said that my uncle had went to answer my aunt’s cell phone when it went off, and he found a huge number of dirty text messages with some guy he doesn’t know. Apparently it was like a sex-line thing?
My aunt and uncle have two boys, 12 and 9, and they have no idea about any of it. They are the reason why my uncle has tried to save the marriage so many times.
I feel really guilty because I had been trying to really reconnect with her lately, especially with the wedding stuff. She doesn’t have a daughter and people have always told us from the time I was little that she looked like she could be my mom. It breaks my heart because I really truly believe that part of why she does these things is because of the disease and her meds. The last time she cheated, she told me about it before any one else knew, and I felt like it was a secret I had to keep until I finally broke down to my Grandma one day. I didn’t know about it this time, but I keep thinking of little things that I’ve seen her spend money on (sometimes for me) or times when I should have been there for her but I wasn’t.
I’m just really scared for her and my cousins right now, and I feel like there’s nothing I can do to help…
*Thanks for anyone who stayed with me through this whole thing. I just really needed to let it out*