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Not my hair!

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    Jillbean    June 12, 2011  

    I know I shouldn't be that upset about this, as we are still a year out but... I have been growing out my hair for almost a year now, and it WAS down to about two inches above my bra strap. I planned on growing it about 2" more and just maintaining from there until the wedding.

    I went to the hairdresser today and asked for a trim. I even showed her on my hair that I just wanted the ends taken off. I had been to this hair dresser before and she took off about 2" then, which had grown back and then some.

    So for some reason she decided to hack 4" off my hair instead of one! I have to take my glasses off and am totally blind without them so I didn't even know until she blowdried it and I could see (vaguely) the blonde shining against the black cape at a level that was way TOO SHORT. With my glasses back on it became apparent how short it was - the longest part in front reaches just to the bottom of my collarbone (previously about an inch above my bra cup's top). In back it's a bit longer, but now about 5-6" above my bra strap.

    I was SO shocked I couldn't even say anything, I just paid and left. I couldn't make her grow it back, after all. I'll give her that the haircut is totally cute, but SERIOUSLY? TRIM = HACK??

    I cried all the way home. She basically gave me hair about an inch or two longer than what I had nine or ten MONTHS ago.

    I know there's still a year until my wedding, so there's totally time to grow it out 6-7"...but this feels like a huge setback. Plus, I wore my hair super long (not my fave) for a long time for NO REASON.

    SIGH. Talk sense into me, hive. I am so down about this!

    I attached a pic of my hair from before...it was actually even longer because it's curly in the photo - which is what I wanted to do for the wedding! :-(

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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    ((HUGS)) it will definitely grow back, don't worry about it, that's terrible that this happened, you should definitely let her know though that she cut too much.

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    My hair was chin length the year before my wedding! I hacked it all off totally not expecting to get engaged that year... I thought I had at least 4 years! I had it cut it May, got engaged in October, and married the following May. It was plenty long enough for the style I had! (it was about shoulder length). Your hair sounds like it will definitely be long enough for just about anything you might want. Don't worry :) Besides, hairstylists work magic!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    She definitely shouldn't have cut it off without checking. HOWEVER, maybe it was SO damaged it needed to be done?

    Keep it extra healthy. It'll still look lovely and it won't be straggly. I had to have more hair "trimmed" (like 2 inches) b/c she said my hair was a wreck and it woudl look longer if it was healthier b/c it wouldh't keep breaking!

    I bet it still looks lovely =]

     
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    Jillbean    June 12, 2011  

    Thanks EJ. It had actually been cut in April (2 inches!) so it couldn't possibly have been 4" worth of breakage. I only noticed it on the bottom 1"!

    I think I'm going to get it trimmed every three months (by someone who knows what the meaning of the word is!) and condition it hardcore. And get a thermal protectant. And wear my glasses during haircuts from now on. LOL.

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    Aw Jillbean, I'm sorry. I feel so vulnerable when I get my hair cut because I wear glasses too and just can't monitor when I can't see. I think you're really supposed to get your hair trimmed every six weeks, which may be why you have to cut so much at your trims. If it's really just a trim, $10 at supercuts with a firm "1/4" and no more!" commandment should do it.

     
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    nybride09    9/19/09   New York, NY

    sorry about that. she really shouldn't have taken that much of. i continue to get trims every 8 weeks even tho i'm growing it out for the wedding - just to keep it healthy.

    if you're worried about it growing fast enough, how about trying prenatal vits and biotin? i've been taking biotin for about a month now. still not sure it really works or if it's a placebo thing.

     
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    msbuttons    May 30, 2010   Palm Harbor, FL

    Oh nooo that is awful! I would have complained. I am such a stickler about my hair...that is just terrible, I feel for you!

     
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    arobb81    January 1, 1990  

    The exact same thing happened to me, I've been growing out my hair for the wedding and it was so long I could almost sit on it, and the stylist took off seven inches when I asked for her to trim the ends.  I got some of the same responses here about how she should have checked and the ends might have been dead, etc etc.  The ends were not dead (well, technically all our hair is dead skin cells isn't it? but my ends were fine) and she cut off more than she showed me, and because I can't see without my glasses I couldn't keep track of what she was doing.  She was totally in the wrong.  I told her it was too short but I paid and left anyway because it was too late.

    That was several months ago and my hair has grown back some of its length, hair grows 1/2" every month and sometimes more in the summer, there is absolutely nothing you can do to make it grow faster sadly.  Apparently pregnant women end up with faster hair growth but its a myth that prenatal vitamins do it.  I did the math and I'll grow back at least five inches by the wedding, but I'm fine with what I have now I think.

    I know exactly how it feels, its very very frustrating and it made me so sad since I've been growing out my hair for so long and spent so much money on nice conditioners, going through a bottle a week, etc.  But it will grow back!  You may not even notice in a month, that's what happened to me.

     
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    Ferris Wheel    10/24/09   New Orleans, LA

    Take some prenatal vitamins! 

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I'm surprised that she cut that much off without checking with you first.  I was going to ask if this was a new stylist, but you said that you've gone to her before.  What a bummer!

    I'm sure it's frustrating to lose all that length that you've been working for.  However, at least you have enough time to get some good length going in the next few months.  FWIW, my hairstylist told me that she often sees brides who grown their hair out much longer than they actually need to in order to achieve a specific look.  In fact, I ended up taking a couple of inches off of mine just before the wedding, because the length was a little longer than I wanted/needed. 

     

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