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So, Hubby decided to have a backbone. :) Finally. He has been asking his ex fiance for the ring back...for 6 years. holy crap. 6 YEARS! and she refuses flat out to give it back. Should be a nice wake up call for her when she gets a subpoena for court. And even more of a surprise for her when he wins. Love it. Seriously, who keeps the ring? I mean really? Just curious...People really keep the friggin ring? Why? Who wants to look at that everyday?

Legally, it just depends what state you're in. For some states, it's considered a gift at proposal, so if you call of the engagement, she can keep it.  In others, it's a condition on a promise to get married, so if you don't get married, he gets the ring back.  It seems like your husband probably did some research about getting a lawyer, so hopefully you're in one of the states that will let him get it back!  (Glad to see that my legal education can come in handy! haha)

Socially though, I think that if you don't get married then you should give the ring back.  I feel like that's proper.

She's a B! I can't stand her! Ridiculous! If she pawned it, it's gonna bite her. :) He's suing her in small claims court. For the ring or the exact amount he spent on it...AFTER interest. :) Ha. Can't wait to see the look on her face when she loses. She's gonna smell funny afterward. LOL.

Well, for one, it's in MN. In MN it is considered a conditional gift. Doesn't matter who breaks the engagement. She manipulated him into letter her keep it afterward, when she knew he was in no mental state to make that decision. Now she keeps  holding it over his head. I told him if he didn't take care of it, she wouldn't like the way I took care of it. I think it's one thing if you have kids together, but she treated him like SHIT. Honestly. I can't wait for the karma to come back around on her!!

In some states, it does matter who breaks it off, but other states are no fault states.  All laws regarding marriage are really state-specific so it's hard to let you know whether you're right or not.

Because she is a gold digging.....yea. He has a lot of crap that led up to them breaking up. He begged her to move to TX to be with him and she refused. Adamantly refused. he deployed, she was kissing her ex husband. In front of my mother in law!! ?! What is that about? and then she also told hubby that he "gave her cervical cancer and an STD" when he didn't have anything AND he had been in TX for 6 months and hadn't seen her. there is a lot more to it, but she should have just given the stupid ring back. She only kept it because it is a 1karat diamond and a status symbol for her greedy ass.

good job boston bee:)

oh, he's right. we talked to the family lawyer in MN. He said we have a case. He said hubby is entitled to the ring. Can't wait for her to crap her pants. lol. awesome.

In MN, none of it applies. It is a conditional gift, condition being marriage. They didn't get married, she broke up with him...case closed. Now she keeps telling him she sold it. She just thinks he is going to forget about it and back down. LOL. Funny.

It is the pricipal of the matter at this point. I agree with him. I don't want the ring. For all I care he can throw the thing in a river. :)

Yes, HPV...I still think she was sleeping around on him. I won't get Gardasil because I have seen what it can do in rare instances. I do my research before I get vaccinated. Just like with the swine flu. Can't pay me to get that vaccine! Ain't happening! :)

I personally don't see why she wanted to keep it to begin with if she felt their relationship was "So horrible" and he supposedly treated her badly. his family hated her because she was a complete witch to him and constantly hitting on every guy around her.

I think her other actions while they were together is enough to say she was sleeping around. I don't think you should be kissing your ex-husband, especially not in front of someone you consider to be your FMIL. I'm just saying.

@simpleandchic- Thank you!! $8000 is a lot of money! for one,

and for another thing, there is no reason she should have kept the ring. They were engaged less than a year! They got engaged in May and ended up breaking up in November or December that same year. She broke it off, something to me seems fishy. also, I was wrong. she has had the ring for 4 years. Not 6. So even so...

@accorn-I just find it extremely hard to believe that with the kind of person she is that she wasn't sleeping around behind his back. I think people who sleep around on SOLDIERS are trash. I think they should be punished. I think that by law they shouldn't get anything in a divorce...unfortunately they do. Ridiculous. If she had an STD that hubby didn't test positive for (because after she told him, he DID get tested) kind of again hard to believe she was faithful...just saying.

I am just venting here about her idiocy. I can't stand her, I can't stand that she holds everything over his head all the time. When he wins the friggin ring back, it is going to be so worth it. It is going to spin her head so fast...

The CDC covers a lot of stuff up. FYI. Kind of like the H1N1 vaccine. Sorry, just not enough time on the market for me to think it's a good idea.

Pretty muc everyone is positive for some type of HPV. I'm just saying. It's out there. How your body reacts to it is completely a different story.

As I said before, you don't know her character. I've met her. She deserves everything she gets. Karma is a nasty....

@Meowkers- I guess I just don't understand why you would WANT to keep a ring from someone who either a) broke up with you or b) you thought was a bad enough person to break up with...just doesn't add up in my eyes. You have the ring and it is a constant reminder of the guy...Seems bizarre to me

there again Soon2bee, SHE ended it...I don't understand why she wants to keep it, except that she is greedy.