(Closed) Not normal! Not normal at all!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
233 posts
Helper bee

Maybe it’s a case of you always want what you can’t have is my short and sweet answer and now you know it’s within reach the intense longing of waiting for it to happen wanes a bit

Post # 4
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@TheSpoons:  i think reality has hit you, finally you know the outcome so you can stop dreaming, i’ve been engaged before and i had loads of wedding stuff picked out i planned everything (even before my first engagement) like you i never looked back on any of that, the reason for me is that was the wedding i wanted with someone else. not the man i love now, i refuse to take any aspects from that wedding and i threw all my planning books out. 


but your wedding appears to be over a year away, there is still time, and if your really still not bothered nearer to the time hire a wedding planner 😉 

Post # 5
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@TheSpoons:  that’s how I was – I’d been mentally planning my wedding for SO long…and then I finally was engaged and didn’t even want to think about a wedding. Don’t worry, you’ll come around – I did! It took almost two months, but I just started getting the itch – all I want to do is look at wedding stuff and start writing checks!

Post # 6
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think fake wedding planning is usually more fun than real wedding planning. Fake planning usually invovles pinterest and blogs and looking at dresses. Real planning involves getting tons fo estimates and figuring out the drama of guest lists and stuff like that. So I’m not really surprised. Get yoru house settled and then you can dive into wedding stuff.

Post # 8
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Fake wedding planning is also all about your fantasies and what you want. Real wedding planning is bound up with the realities of marriage. You have to factor in two people’s ideas, preferences, wishes, etc., and work out disagreements that might arise. Plus you have to juggle all the complications that real-life factors like families, real-life limitations like budgets and availabilities, etc., bring into the mix. Different ball game with different rules.

Post # 9
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Fake wedding planning you can have anything and everything, real wedding planning you have to actually think about budget and costs and reality. I think maybe you’re just scared to look back into all the things you had previously planned and realize that you can’t have everything.

Post # 11
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@TheSpoons:  Yes, this.

Fake wedding planning is all about having a wedding. But now you’ve got the real thing, and you’re focused on the marriage, the man himself, your relationship. I’m sure you’ll still enjoy planning your wedding, but I think it’s sign of maturity that you’re not dragging out the binders 🙂

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