(Closed) Feeling Down(Long Vent)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
717 posts
Busy bee

it’s been rough but you guys have stuck together so that’s amazing.  and yea this friend of yours ia married with a baby already but i’m sure it was super stressful and not an ideal situation for her.  they got married because she got pregnant, from what you’re saying.

your relationship is moving at a different pace and it’s so hard to not compare your relationship to others, i know.

as long as you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend are supporting each, everything will work out someway

Post # 4
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry to hear about your frustrations. I understand, my Fiance and I have defnitiely have financial hardships too.

It’s hard not to feel guilty about being jealous of a friend. But one thing I’ve learned is you can’t compare your life to anyone elses. In the past I’ve been jealous of a friend who seems to have always got what she’s wanted and had no real hardships. But we never really know what others are struggling with. And as long as you are comparing yourself/your life to someone else you will never be happy. 

You and your SO have been together for 6 years?! That’s great. You’ve found someone you love and love being with. Maybe you will have to struggle for many years but maybe not always. (You really can blame the economy right now). You have a partner who has shown he will be with you through hard times and good times. 

Post # 5
1552 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Dont say it will always be hard because that way you’ll attract that!

You will soon be in a better situation, never give up! 🙂

Post # 6
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Bah, I just wrote a bunch and deleted it by accident!!

Anyways, *hugs* it is totally normal for you to feel this way. I can relate – I have been with my Fiance for 9.5 years….uh huh…lol We’ll most likely get married on our 10 year anniversary…so I can relate to the SLOWNESS aspect…I have seen so many of his friends/family find partners, get married, and have babies in half the time our relationship has been going on. So I totally understand the feeling.

Things will get better for you two…do the best you can to pay down your bills and if you can manage it, tuck away about $200 per pay period and build up a nice savings cushion…it will give you great peace of mind.

Post # 7
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I completely agree w ashkat: what looks good on the outside might not be that way in reality, i.e. your friend might really be struggling more or dealing with other things that you don’t know about. I know it’s super hard not to compare and think “why not me?” (I do it all the time, even today with something!) but trust that everything happens for a reason and you’ll get what you really want if you work for it, and it seems like you are. *hugs* 🙂

Post # 8
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d look at it this way: Through thick and thin, you have loved him and he has loved you. Together or a part, you have made it work. Sure, it wasn’t instant like your friends, but it was tried and tested and you both came out at the end with a (hopefully) solid and happy relationship. 

Down the road, every couple struggles and money is always going to be a huge issue with every couple. At least you two know that you will survive no matter what happens! 

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